Conflict

Yep I've wanted someone to suffer for making me and others suffer - never been able to do the revenge thing tho'.  I'm with Uhane on this one - bad stuff happens to all people, can't tell where it starts but maybe you can work out a way of not passing it on -  not cool to aim for revenge as I reckon it doesn't end it  (even tho' maybe they deserve it... ).   Not ideal to take out one's own sh1t on other people either - reckon that could turn a person nasty.   Finding what it feels like to be peaceful or not / noticing when not and then sorting out what is the trigger/solution (can be external/can be internal to you) then funnily enough when you've got an angle on that often the answer was there all along.  Not necessarily difficult to understand - just difficult to believe for one reason or another.  

When people are in a group and someone picks on someone else they often don’t speak up because they don’t want a target on their backs or the group to turn on them.

However many in the group will not be looking at you in a negative way but will be wary of the antagonist. They may see him as untrustworthy or unpleasant but not show it to his face.

Even though he may feel he has the upper hand and is ‘winning’, people will often see him for who he is and treat him accordingly. He damages his position be attacking you but this will be hidden and not immediately obvious. 

Rest assured people who attack others do themselves no favours in the end and always get their comeuppance. 

I hope that changes for you in the future. 

Take care 

Unfortunately peaceful existences dont exist (I believe) There is always someone who treds on your toes. Thanks anyway

Thank you. I use to think like that, but the older I'm getting the more I hate people. It is difficult for me to think on that level currently.

we cannot blame others for our own feelings, no matter how they treat us. i

I would say also that asking for revenge and focusing on the other person will only make you crazy with thoughts that will backfire on you. Forget the poor sod, whose only way of dealing with others is to humiliate them. that's just pathetic

Find a path that does not intersect with theirs or, if you can't, pretend they are not there at all.

The Dhalai Lama said:

"thoughts of Revenge (anger) is like eating poison and waiting for the other person to die."

So forget it. Focusing on whether a person is a "good" or "bad" person is just a waste of time which could be used to do something awesome.

Hi

I used to feel like this about certain individuals but found this to be a bad pattern repeating itself. Let’s face it the amount of times we can replay things over and over it’s no wonder bad feelings occupied my head for quite some time. 
I learned to let go and thought that even if something bad happened to them they wouldn’t learn from that anyway, they probably don’t even think they did anything wrong in the first place. I have even thought that if something bad happened to them I can end up feeling sorry for them after which then would cause me to feel guilty. I know this totally depends on the severity of what the other/others did and understand why we can feel this way. I just think for me if I want a peaceful existence it’s probably best I don’t try to make all the bad people see the error of their ways. 

I guess I think their day will come eventually. 

I appreciate that CatWoman, Just for once I would like to see bad things happening to him even if it isnt me doing those things. At this point I would settle for that.

Revenge is a dish best served cold, by the time this person gets whats comming to him it might arctic, but he will get it, maybe the gods are saving it all up for one humungous splat.

It often seems like bad things happen to good people and crappy people always have good stuff, but imagine having to live in a head that can be so cruel and unfeeling, what a swamp it must be, all that hurt, anger and pain that's not acknowleged and gets thrown at random people.

Thanks for your reply. The thought of revenge has consumed over the past few months, that feeling has lifted ever so slightly but given half the chance I think I would more than likely stoop to his level.

Hi I’m sorry you were mistreated. Honestly I used to wish a revenge. In one situation my only thought about taking revenge on that person made me laugh. I planned it carefully and I was ready to “press the button” and look how she gets what she deserved. But I stopped myself. I stead decided to just speak to her and tell her honestly what hurt me. I decided to not possibly destroy a career of that young lady, although she behaved really unprofessional. Talking to her turned out to be a good choice. I don’t know what kind of issue you faced, but maybe it would be better to concentrate on healing instead of revenge. I know it’s easy to say, I imagine how it must consume you, but I tell myself, who deserves a punishment- they will get it. There is also one man maybe still living in this world, who hurt and abused me terribly. He made 3 years of my life a hell on the earth. I could take revenge, I could sue him, but I also realised I would have suffered even more having to go back to that trauma. Decided to leave it and let the justice come itself. I’m not trying to convince you to choose this or that, you can ask yourself what would you get if you take revenge and if there are any possible consequences further. You may also want to speak to a therapist about it.