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NAS94658

I'm going to keep this short because I could write a book on this one issue. I had a conflict a while back with someone and they humilated and belittled me in front of a large group of people. Ever since then I have wanted revenge or a the very least have hoped for something bad to happen to him. But to my knowledge nothing has occured to him. I'm just hoping if someone has ever had the same issue and what are their thoughts on this matter. Why do bad things never happent to crappy people? I certainly did not deserve what happened to me so where is the natural order of things? where is this karma I hear about? This issue is far worse than it sounds, it is behind a lot of the current issues I'm having. Whats your thoughts? Do you have any advice?

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  • Hi I’m sorry you were mistreated. Honestly I used to wish a revenge. In one situation my only thought about taking revenge on that person made me laugh. I planned it carefully and I was ready to “press the button” and look how she gets what she deserved. But I stopped myself. I stead decided to just speak to her and tell her honestly what hurt me. I decided to not possibly destroy a career of that young lady, although she behaved really unprofessional. Talking to her turned out to be a good choice. I don’t know what kind of issue you faced, but maybe it would be better to concentrate on healing instead of revenge. I know it’s easy to say, I imagine how it must consume you, but I tell myself, who deserves a punishment- they will get it. There is also one man maybe still living in this world, who hurt and abused me terribly. He made 3 years of my life a hell on the earth. I could take revenge, I could sue him, but I also realised I would have suffered even more having to go back to that trauma. Decided to leave it and let the justice come itself. I’m not trying to convince you to choose this or that, you can ask yourself what would you get if you take revenge and if there are any possible consequences further. You may also want to speak to a therapist about it. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Thanks for your reply. The thought of revenge has consumed over the past few months, that feeling has lifted ever so slightly but given half the chance I think I would more than likely stoop to his level.

  • in reply to NAS94658

    Revenge is a dish best served cold, by the time this person gets whats comming to him it might arctic, but he will get it, maybe the gods are saving it all up for one humungous splat.

    It often seems like bad things happen to good people and crappy people always have good stuff, but imagine having to live in a head that can be so cruel and unfeeling, what a swamp it must be, all that hurt, anger and pain that's not acknowleged and gets thrown at random people.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I appreciate that CatWoman, Just for once I would like to see bad things happening to him even if it isnt me doing those things. At this point I would settle for that.

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