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I'm going to keep this short because I could write a book on this one issue. I had a conflict a while back with someone and they humilated and belittled me in front of a large group of people. Ever since then I have wanted revenge or a the very least have hoped for something bad to happen to him. But to my knowledge nothing has occured to him. I'm just hoping if someone has ever had the same issue and what are their thoughts on this matter. Why do bad things never happent to crappy people? I certainly did not deserve what happened to me so where is the natural order of things? where is this karma I hear about? This issue is far worse than it sounds, it is behind a lot of the current issues I'm having. Whats your thoughts? Do you have any advice?

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  • we cannot blame others for our own feelings, no matter how they treat us. i

    I would say also that asking for revenge and focusing on the other person will only make you crazy with thoughts that will backfire on you. Forget the poor sod, whose only way of dealing with others is to humiliate them. that's just pathetic

    Find a path that does not intersect with theirs or, if you can't, pretend they are not there at all.

    The Dhalai Lama said:

    "thoughts of Revenge (anger) is like eating poison and waiting for the other person to die."

    So forget it. Focusing on whether a person is a "good" or "bad" person is just a waste of time which could be used to do something awesome.

  • in reply to Uhane

    Thank you. I use to think like that, but the older I'm getting the more I hate people. It is difficult for me to think on that level currently.

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