Published on 12, July, 2020
To all the other single, jobless or not 30 somethings out there,
Do you feel like life has passed you by? Where normies had social lives, had fun, got decent jobs, had families,
people like us fell through the cracks, living in others' shadows, persecuted for invisible differences and resigned to crappy job placements or stuck on the dole, trapped in our own boxes and too odd to be considered feasible friends, lovers, partners, etc.
Yes. I definitely feel as if life is passing me by. And definitely persecuted for differences that I'm not even aware of. I even got told once that someone felt uncomfortable because I'd offered her a birthday present! Do neurotypicals not offer people birthday presents? What's so different about me doing it!!?
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It depends on the friendship level whether or not it's appropriate to give a gift. I take it that you are male, and because she is female she may have been wondering if you were trying to initiate a romantic relationship when she didn't want that type of relationship with you.
Friendships are extremely complicated.
Here is an article explaining the 4 levels of friendship and what to expect:
socialself.com/.../
I feel there's more context to it than just that though. Was this someone who was merely a colleague or someone who had already expressed that they didn't want you to speak to them on that level?