Are we all destined to be single forever?

I've always had a blind side for relationships. The relationships I've had and have have always being initiated by others. I don't think I'm attractive or interesting but obviously others must think differently . If a relationship can happen to me it can happen to others. 

I'm a bit like Herge, people seem to find me attractive, I don't know why. My relationships rarely last though, I honestly don't think I'm cut out for them. I came to this conclusion after realising the common component in my many failed relationships is me, this isn't a negative, but a positive, as it allowed me to ask myself what I really want and need from a relationhip and why I don't get it. Basically I choose emotionaly unavailable men, because I don't want to be available all the time, the trouble is emotionally unavailable men want me to be availalbe all the time. Not only that I get bored in relationships really quickly.

The simple fact of someone wanting to around me all the time is unattractive to me.  I'd need a relationship where the other person is willing to leave me be all the time.  And perhaps not even live in the same house.

The simple fact of someone wanting to around me all the time is unattractive to me.  I'd need a relationship where the other person is willing to leave me be all the time.  And perhaps not even live in the same house.

I do believe that there is someone for everyone.  It's not set in stone that we will meet that person though.  Personally I can't stand dating sites so that's ruled out. I also stay at home a lot so that limits my opportunity to meet a new partner.  Then there's my age. That shouldn't be bar to meeting someone single whilst I'm still in my early 40's. But I hope to meet someone this decade or I worry that I never will.

I think living seperately would be good if it's affordable, it helps if you don't have children together too. I could see one parent feeling dumped on if they had to do the majority of the child care whilst the other parent was off enjoying themselves and not being there enough.

I think that even when you live apart theres still an uncomfortable power dynamic, who's house do you stay in, how much of your space is the other person allowed to have, even when you live near each other it's difficult, if you lived more than 10 mins away I think it would become very hard.

Then you have the C word, I had a partner who I didn't live with, everybody around us assumed that because we hadn't moved in together within six months we were either about to split up or we were planing to get married and then live together. Luckily we were both equally jumpy around the C word and niether of us would entertain the M word every again.

C word  Comitment

M word  marriage

Both big horrible scary words!

I note that  Chris Packham and his partner live in their separate homes.  That kind of arrangement would probably suit me if I ever find my other person.

I totally agree with you, I have good intentions of wanting to meet someone, stay casual, which goes out the window and I struggle to set boundaries or even split up with someone