Published on 12, July, 2020
My friend Gerard has a birthday. He has autism. I can't find the right words for his birthday wishes. Please help.
I ussually text someone "Isnt it your birthday today?" then they say yes then I say "Happy birthday!"
I always ask first because even though I know its their birthday, I worry that maybe it changed somehow lol
This is an interesting option, thanks But how do I choose words so as not to offend? I couldn't find anything on the internet.
Firstly have you had experience of him being offended by being wished well? I struggle to see how a positive birthday message could offend, so there must be a back story as to why you are concerned?
Let us know the outcome.
I really appreciate it
Thank you
Absolutely. I think you may be over thinking this one.
If im wrong im sorry, but to offer someone birthday wishes is kinda standard. I think you will be fine.
Good luck. It'll be cool ok.
Most autistic people I know dont like their birthday, but theyve never seemed to get upset by bday wishes. I think it would probably be fine to message him. Then he'll know you care. And if he does get upset then at least youll know for next year