Published on 12, July, 2020
My friend Gerard has a birthday. He has autism. I can't find the right words for his birthday wishes. Please help.
I ussually text someone "Isnt it your birthday today?" then they say yes then I say "Happy birthday!"
I always ask first because even though I know its their birthday, I worry that maybe it changed somehow lol
This is an interesting option, thanks But how do I choose words so as not to offend? I couldn't find anything on the internet.
Firstly have you had experience of him being offended by being wished well? I struggle to see how a positive birthday message could offend, so there must be a back story as to why you are concerned?
Let us know the outcome.
I really appreciate it
Thank you
Absolutely. I think you may be over thinking this one.
If im wrong im sorry, but to offer someone birthday wishes is kinda standard. I think you will be fine.
Good luck. It'll be cool ok.
Most autistic people I know dont like their birthday, but theyve never seemed to get upset by bday wishes. I think it would probably be fine to message him. Then he'll know you care. And if he does get upset then at least youll know for next year
I'm not sure... He seems cheerful... Do you think I shouldn't worry and just write him some kind wishes?