Published on 12, July, 2020
Boyfriend has diagnosed dyslexia and dyspraxia, doesn’t have Asperger’s diagnosis. For the most part we have a great relationship., but a few days ago after 4 years he has literally cut me off. He is an only child. I am one of several and my parents are divorcing. We had a great Xmas and we were making plans etc. over the Xmas, my mother, who my boyfriend has a total dislike for, offered for me and her to go away. I told my bf who immediately started ignoring me (over text) when I questioned him over the ignoring he stated he thought my mother was irresponsible etc, as she should be paying the mortgage which she was worried about not going away. I said he had no right to make comments on what my mother did with her money and he retaliated saying nasty stuff about my mother. We didnt speak for several days. He does this where I have to make the first move to sort the issue. Which I did again, we arranged to speak face to face and he asked had I told my mother what he said. When I admitted yes. He went nuts. Saying my mother would take offence and tell others which she hasn’t but I did say if you have said it you need to face up to it and sort it . We agreed to put it behind us and he said he would speak face to face with my mother. I thought we were fine and then he started ignoring me . He went to his friends for the weekend. Hardly spoke to me . I sent him a text saying remember me and he went nuts again. He said I was sarcastic to which I apologised. I text him the next day as I knew he was off asking did he love me . He said yes but he was unhappy, I asked him to call me he then started ranting saying how I bring so much drama to his life , and so does my family , and he never wanted to see or speak to me again. Put the phone down and blocked me on everything. I am heart broken . He has never said sorry once in any arguments we have had. It’s always me who has to say sorry and that I will change my behaviour. I don’t know if he is using my family as an excuse for his nasty ranting. He only seems to listen to any reason from his father. I am heartbroken and confused that after 4 years he can just cut me off like I am nothing
NAS91147 said:doesn’t have Asperger’s diagnosis
Why are you framing all your questions in the context autism if he doesn't have a diagnosis?
He just hasn’t gone through that diagnosis but he has so many traits of aspergers . His parents also think this. He only appears to listen to reason from his father
NAS91147 said:He just hasn’t gone through that diagnosis but he has so many traits of aspergers
Traits doesn't mean that he is autistic.
However, assuming he is (which I don't think is ideal) it's not clear from your text what you want answered (to me anyway).
I know you posted a thread previously which I read, and which was unreplied to, so I think it might be helpful to us if you are more specific in your questions and where they relate to his assumed autism.
Thanks for your replies I am really grateful. The break up where his parents got told was a year ago. The incident where he has told me on the phone don’t love you don’t want to be with you.. was a day or so ago. 10 days ago we were fine, until I said I was going away with my mother and he made the comment that she was irresponsible and should be prioritising paying the mortgage. He seems to have taken huge offence that I told my mother what comments he had made because he got so mad when I told him I had saying my mother would take offence and she would tell me sister who would also take offence . My mother has done neither of those rhings. I thought we had sorted the issue as we talked it through face to face and he agreed to speak to my mother in person . Then came him ignoring me and culminating in the phone call where he said I and. My family bring nothing but drama and he doesn’t want anything to with me any more or see or speak to me. I have no idea if his parents are aware of any of this . He has just cut me off