Published on 12, July, 2020
Just back from my work’s Christmas night out. Feeling very deflated. Watching everyone dancing and having fun, I felt like an alien or a ghost. Totally uninvolved with what was going on. And now I probably won’t speak to another human except a supermarket worker until January
Life shouldn’t be this way. I deserve better.
lol it will only get more lonely as you age. I have not seen any of my colleagues in six months since I am working from home, and I flat out refused to attend the Christmas party. Embrace solitude
I don’t think “LOL” is a very appropriate response to someone who has clearly struggled with social interaction, I fail to see how it is funny in the slightest.
You don’t have to get more lonely as you age. Amerantin (former member) try not to be so hard on yourself. The whole lead up to Christmas is a lot for anyone to deal with, let alone someone who is neurodivergent. It’s also Friday, so I imagine it’s the end of a long work week. On a Friday after a week at work, all I want to do is go home and switch off from everyone and everything. Also work Christmas nights out are just really hard to cope with… it’s a different environment, with people you’re used to seeing in a different environment, there’s often alcohol involved, lights, dancing, lots of noise, conversation, music, food you may not be used to or don’t have any control over. Well done for even going, be proud of yourself for tackling such a big thing.
Maybe wait for a time that involves less demands on your senses, at a time when you’re well rested, in a familiar place, with less people, and try doing something on a much smaller scale, like go to a coffee shop and grab a drink. You can sit right in the corner, headphones on, get a familiar ‘safe’ drink, take something to keep your hands occupied etc but just take things one step at a time, and don’t be too hard on yourself. :)
Sloan said:You can sit right in the corner, headphones on, get a familiar ‘safe’ drink, take something to keep your hands occupied etc
LoL, that's a sure way to make everybody else uncomfortable and to not be invited again.
Sloan said: I fail to see how it is funny in the slightest.
LOL, it is incredibly funny because they are the same difficulties I had as a young man. In 2000 I decided that I could not fit socially, and checked out. I have not had a non-work related interaction since 2000,, and I have never been so happy in my life. If I knew that it was so easy, I would have checked out at 12.
Come on matey, you make me look like the Grinch! I was just showing you some dark humour. Dark humour is like medical care: some people will just never get it, har har har!
I’m sorry to feel you need to leave. I really appreciated your posts here and your thoughtfulness.
I hope you’ll reconsider and return to us
No you weren’t. You told them to embrace solitude and that they are going to get more and more lonely, and laughed at their situation. Literally the least helpful response ever.
im the least stuck up person ever. I am not your mate, I would never consider that role. I was just trying to offer someone who was distressed some empathy and some suggestions of how to move forward. You just swooped in and criticised like you ALWAYS do. You seriously need to have a think about the posts that you write here to people that are sometimes struggling and feeling fragile. You are an awful human being.
Anyways, I’m out of here. I do not want to spend my time conversing with people so full of hatred and malice. I came on here to find like minded people, people that struggled with similar things that I was, to support each other on the journey. You ruin it every time.
Everyone else… look after yourselves, hope you all find a way to enjoy the Christmas period. Thanks for all the support and advice you’ve offered during my short time here xx
Shame people have to ruin it.
Matey matey do not be so stuck up. I was advising Amerantin on how to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation.
I am not your mate. I was talking about going to a coffee shop, not about social gatherings.
Sloan said:Since when do you have to be invited to a coffee shop?? It’s quite normal to sit in a coffee shop with a drink and with headphones on, so I don’t get your point. You make no sense.
Since when do you have to be invited to a coffee shop?? It’s quite normal to sit in a coffee shop with a drink and with headphones on, so I don’t get your point. You make no sense.
Mate, we were talking about social gatherings, not about going to a coffee shop alone.
Judge Dredd said:LoL, that's a sure way to make everybody else uncomfortable and to not be invited again.
You strike me as the least happy person going. At every opportunity you criticise others, you put people down, come on here and troll. I don’t believe a happy person would treat other people like that. Laughing at other people’s difficulties and struggles is really not appropriate. I hope the original poster has ignored your comments.. and it’s not made them feel worse about themselves and the situation.