Shopping at Christmas time - uuurrrggghhhhh!!!

Pegg said:

Nice to see you Debbie

Autonomistic said:

Welcome back Debbie 

Thank you both.

I came home ranting to my husband and although he understands to a degree I'm not sure he could fully comprehend why I was so very wound up - like a spinning top about to take off.

So I came here as I know that this is a place of understanding.

Autonomistic said:

Your mention in the 'spare a thought' thread has tempted me out of hibernation too.

That's made my day.

Welcome back

I have this vision of your husband hiding under the kitchen table with a large upturned saucepan held tightly on his head. 

Roy said:

I have this vision of your husband hiding under the kitchen table with a large upturned saucepan held tightly on his head

LOL.

That's not far from the truth.

I transform into a monster when stressed (or angry).

Roy said:

I’ve been processing my autistic life for over two years, the more I slowly unravel my life, it just makes me realise how many of my family are autistic.

Yes, that's very interesting.

I am doing similar and in fact my great nephew is presently being assessed (at around 6 years) for autism ...

The fact is, meltdowns affect us all differently, once we can’t control ourselves then that’s a meltdown. We all trigger differently and respond differently. My late father’s meltdowns were off the Richter scale, he would often have no memory of them afterwards. I’ve been processing my autistic life for over two years, the more I slowly unravel my life, it just makes me realise how many of my family are autistic.

It was a normal childhood to me, “ your mums been ‘sectioned’ again and your dads ’gone into one’. I thought all families were like mine. I would be sent to live with aunts who were blood relatives, guess what condition they had?

Roy said:

My wife and I had ‘words’ recently, it ended with her going upstairs, my last remark was, “ don’t forget to slam the bedroom door!” I did unfortunately live to regret that remark.

You've just triggered a memory.

I lived for a while with my autistic friend, when we were partners.

One day we had a row and he went out.

I locked myself in the house with bolts so he couldn't get in and he was worried I'd done something 'silly' so he had to smash his own kitchen window to get in.

I felt very guilty after.

Luckily, it's many years since I got that emotional but I if I'm angry, I don't know what I'm doing - I just completely lose it.

Actually, my friend loses his temper really badly too and when we lived together in another house he ripped a shower rail and shower off the wall.

I hope your bedroom door is still intact ....

I remember watching the cartoon, Taz the Tasmanian Devil. It could go from calm to warp 10 in a second. It would spin like a tornado and destroy all around it. It’s what I thought of when you mentioned a spinning top.

My wife and I had ‘words’ recently, it ended with her going upstairs, my last remark was, “ don’t forget to slam the bedroom door!” I did unfortunately live to regret that remark.

I remember watching the cartoon, Taz the Tasmanian Devil. It could go from calm to warp 10 in a second. It would spin like a tornado and destroy all around it. It’s what I thought of when you mentioned a spinning top.

My wife and I had ‘words’ recently, it ended with her going upstairs, my last remark was, “ don’t forget to slam the bedroom door!” I did unfortunately live to regret that remark.

Roy said:

I’ve been processing my autistic life for over two years, the more I slowly unravel my life, it just makes me realise how many of my family are autistic.

Yes, that's very interesting.

I am doing similar and in fact my great nephew is presently being assessed (at around 6 years) for autism ...

The fact is, meltdowns affect us all differently, once we can’t control ourselves then that’s a meltdown. We all trigger differently and respond differently. My late father’s meltdowns were off the Richter scale, he would often have no memory of them afterwards. I’ve been processing my autistic life for over two years, the more I slowly unravel my life, it just makes me realise how many of my family are autistic.

It was a normal childhood to me, “ your mums been ‘sectioned’ again and your dads ’gone into one’. I thought all families were like mine. I would be sent to live with aunts who were blood relatives, guess what condition they had?

Roy said:

My wife and I had ‘words’ recently, it ended with her going upstairs, my last remark was, “ don’t forget to slam the bedroom door!” I did unfortunately live to regret that remark.

You've just triggered a memory.

I lived for a while with my autistic friend, when we were partners.

One day we had a row and he went out.

I locked myself in the house with bolts so he couldn't get in and he was worried I'd done something 'silly' so he had to smash his own kitchen window to get in.

I felt very guilty after.

Luckily, it's many years since I got that emotional but I if I'm angry, I don't know what I'm doing - I just completely lose it.

Actually, my friend loses his temper really badly too and when we lived together in another house he ripped a shower rail and shower off the wall.

I hope your bedroom door is still intact ....