Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm interested in whether anyone here has dated before and what your experience had been.
I've never dated but I want to and then I don't want to because I'm so anxious all the time and it gets in the way of most things in my life. I've been wanting to date since I was 20 and now I'm nearing the end of my 20s.
In those years I've never dated anyone. I don't have any friends. I hardly go out and I'm so anxious all the time.
I worry about what will happen when my family are gone. I don't want to end up alone for the rest of my life but the chances of me dating are so slim and then there's no guarantee it would work out for me anyway.
I have but never deliberately. What happens over and over again is that I think I've made a friend and then suddenly they're trying to stick their tongue down my throat. I don't know how your supposed to tell something is a date vs hanging out.
I wouldn't know the difference between that either. I'm sorry that must be so uncomfortable and frightening to go through.
I guess upon first meeting you can say that you're just here to hang out and chat casually, that way the person you're with would know how things stand with you. What's obvious to us isn't always obvious to neurotypicals so it can be helpful to explain to them sometimes.
It seems like overkill (and kind of arrogant?) to say that to everyone I happen to hang out with. Also on the few occasions I have picked up on signs that there might be some ulterior motive and said that, the other person usually says "oh no that wasn't my intention don't worry" and then makes a pass later anyway.
It was set up by a UK charity and I think it was aimed at the UK autistic community initially. However I guess once on the app stores anyone can find it.
There does seem to be very little awareness or mention of it on here since it was launched.
I just signed up for that app. Everyone on it appears to be in the USA