Published on 12, July, 2020
This is a tough one, but at least your ex is understanding in agreeing to the accommodations in her access.
It sounds like her new partner is a piece of work and may be trying to edge your son out of her life for some reason so it may be worth asking your ex if this is what she sees? The prospect of losing access may be enough to get her to reconsider tha partnership.
I would also weigh up giving an ultimatum that if he verbally abuses your disabled son again that you will report him for child abuse - that should make him think even if thew chances of effective prosecution are slim.
You did ask for thought so these are mine.
I welcome your thoughts so thank you.
he had a very bad upbringing and thinks my son needs disciplining if naughty,
My son has very limited comprehension and understands very basic things so what looks like naughty isn’t necessarily.
She almost didn’t tell me is the scary thing.
NAS76914 said:She almost didn’t tell me is the scary thing.
She is in the tricky situation in defending her new partner while worring that the partner is being abusive.
If you are on good terms still then you could ask her to talk about it as it may help her see a way forward.
If I were in your shoes then I would have the conversation openly and without judgement to try to understand the dynamic there before considering a course of action.
Thank you. It’s really difficult as I’m worried he’s a ticking time bomb. He’s never been violent but he’s a product of violence and his terminology can be aggressive.
He’s been sticking to her like glue the last two days so been very hard to speak to her.