Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone, I'm new here and just wondering if anyone else has experienced what I have. I lost my dad just over 2 years ago and since then it seems all the traits I have have been cranked up and more intense. I always muddled through life and got by, but now it's very difficult for me and now probably realise that my dad was the safety raft that could always go to when feeling overwhelmed and kept a lid on things through my life. I never had my own family or friends so dad was like a best mate to me. Needless to say my mental health has declined. I think I could manage the ASD before and work around it but now it seems to be managing me massively.
Hi...I was undiagnosed at the time, but when my dad died (he was also a best mate to me) I really struggled and what I now know were Autistic traits were certainly affected more. I totally agree with what Iain has said.
I lost my Mam when I was 20 and my dad 6 years ago at 46, I overwhelming feeling which I had which may sound silly but I thought of myself as an orphan from then on, dont get me wrong I was absolutely devastated and still are 6 years later
happened to me after I lost my dad, and coping with lockdowns at the same time, in 2020. I was totally burnt out, only really recovered now.
It's not uncommon for major life events, like the passing of a loved one, to have a significant impact on how we experience our traits and emotions. Grief can definitely amplify things we might have managed before. Remember that you're not alone – many people in the community have likely faced similar experiences and might have some insights to share.By the way, have you ever come across those granite cremation benches? They're like a serene way to remember and honor loved ones. It's a reminder that they're always a part of us, even if they're physically gone.
Matt said: I'm new here and just wondering if anyone else has experienced what I have. I lost my dad just over 2 years ago and since then it seems all the traits I have have been cranked up and more intense.
It is quite common for this to happen for autists.
Your grief will increase your anxiety and sensations will feel more intense. You will also have lost the companionship and emotional security your das provided, plus any practical things he did for you (perhaps because they were difficult for you) are now on your already stressed shoulders to deal with.
If you can afford it then I think a counsellor with autism experience could help you process the grief and find a healthier normality for you.