Published on 12, July, 2020
I have spent my whole life looking for a comfortable bra, but to no avail.
When decency allows I go without but I gave up doing that outside after some embarrassing experiences.
So, I have thrown away more uncomfortable bras than I've had hot dinners (slight exaggeration).
It's only struck me this evening (light a bolt of lightning, but less dramatic) that as other women seem to tolerate them, maybe it's the autism that makes me hate them and be constantly aware of a section of my body being squeezed.
I wonder if others on here have similar experiences?
If it’s just a question of support a sports bra might suit you better given theyre designed to handle sweat and generally don’t have underwear to poke at you. If you like it from a fashion point of view you might try a corset. it offers the support of a bra but again typically doesn’t have the underwire or for that matter the straps or hugging band. It is of course tight around the waist but not as tight as you might imagine depending on the type.
I'm interested in historical clothing and corsets/stays do feel totally different to a bra, even for fashion purposes rather than support. There are some really interesting videos online by Bernadette Banner where she talks about what it's like to wear a Victorian-style corset intended for everyday wear and it seems far more comfortable than people might expect, since the tight lacing people often associate with corsetry wasn't widespread at the time corsets were in common use. I'm genuinely interested in giving it a go!
I made a set of regency short stays, which are mildly similar to a bra as in they cover the same part of the chest, but I found it to be much more comfortable than a wire bra or many sports bras. This could also have been because I made it to fit me exactly though.
There's a market out there for someone to make and sell properly made really comfortable stays or bras or similar .. something that holds the bits in place so they don't wobble but so comfortable we can forget about the item of clothing on our bodies.
What you write is fascinating.
Thank you.