Published on 12, July, 2020
This may be more appropriate for the older members, but younger ones may find it useful and may have some advice to give.
My really big one is I wish I was less of a 'people pleaser', less compliant.
I think I have been quite easily manipulated during my life and if I hadn't been, my life would have taken a different course.
I have finally learnt to say 'no' and am trying hard to 'please myself'.
What about you?
Debbie....
'There is a happy land far far away'
Ben
Im learning to do the same. I would tell my younger self that it is not my responsibilty to look after everyone. Also, i would tell her that those feelings of sadness really do pass
Ben said:Go back
Where?
Go back!
I just checked and apparently the quote is “good things come to those who wait”.
I can confirm from empirical research that it’s not true.
Amerantin (former member) said:a bit cliched but: nothing comes to those who wait
The cliche is actually: 'everything comes to those who wait' ...
Other advice for my younger self, a bit cliched but: nothing comes to those who wait
Always believe in yourself.
Never give up.
Follow your heart and don't do things just to please others.
I agree completely with this. I was so desperate to fit in and have friends that I put up with things I never should have and allowed myself to be taken advantage of ignored and forgotten when I wasn’t useful to others. And of course despite all that i still didn’t really have proper friends anyway.
make sure that everything you do is fun,
avoid having to get a proper job for as long as possible.
Good idea for a thread.
I would say to myself:
It's ok to be different.
It's totally fine to ask for help. No shame in that.
I’d say make a pact with a deity who’s interests align with yours, so you can receive divine-boons to pursue your interests, and possibly gain a doggo-familiar that will support you with daily-living and overload and otherwise be a good boi..
Oh and also pursue an autism-diagnosis and get ECHP plan so you can be supported through your exposures.. and don’t be afraid to pursue benefit and social-resources because they are there to equalise you..
Don’t spend so much of your life worrying.
"Don't hate yourself, the world isn't fair."
I would tell myself: - Stop worrying what everyone thinks - they don't matter.
and
- Don't trust people so much, they aren't safe.
Honestly, I would tell myself to cover my tracks better so they never found me and dragged me to hospital.
I don't really know what advice I could have received that would have got me somewhere different to where I am now.
Bump.
Never doubt yourself and remember no matter what you'll always get through whatever is thrown at you.
I live my life by this one.
What a quote!
Peter Capaldi had some of the best quotes IMO.
Be gentle with yourself, trust your judgement and learn about autism because it will help you understand and forgive yourself!