Hello i'm 36 ( late diagnosed last year ) and I have not made a new friend in 16 years.
I am good at masking and meeting people in person, But I struggle a lot with texting. I asked the people who disconnect with me why they did and I get a couple answers
- I text too often
- Its "Difficult to talk with me"
- I just don't feel a connection
I would like to figure out how to communicate via text, does anyone know of any guides for communicating via text as an autistic adult.
I'm tech savvy and have found AI to be helpful but that gives its own problems with authenticity and whatnot.
I found speech to text can help me formulate a sentence but then i get comments about my communication style being weird.
What I would like help figuring out is:
- how often to text
- How do i know the emotional meaning in a text
- how can i come up with a reply if I im not answering a question or providing information.
- examples of conversation starters?
- how can i bring up a concern without offending the person
All of the answers I have gotten is "You just have to feel when to do things or what to say" which is really unhelpful. I really wish there was a flow chart for this kind of stuff.
Also, unrelated kind of, whenever i bring this up with my neurotypical friends that my struggle is because im neurodivergent they say that is negative self talk and that it's just because all the people i've met are just incompatible. Is this true? I feel like I'm supposed to try to make some accommodations in my communication with neurotypical friends, or like communicate with them my struggles.
Thank you for your help in advance...