Dating/ Dating Apps

You sound quite young so I don't think you should imagine being a virgin forever at this stage! I thought I would be, but I'm in the process of getting married (aged thirty-nine!).

I had mixed success with dating sites. I did not get many responses or interest in my profile. I did get a couple of dates, but not many. However, two of them turned into relationships that lasted a number of months. I met my fiancee elsewhere, though, so on the whole dating sites were not a great success for me, and I know other people who fared even worse. They are pretty expensive too.

Have you thought of trying to work on finding other ways to go out? Maybe you'll meet someone spontaneously if you do. Volunteering can be a good way of getting out, meeting people and feeling like you're giving something back to the community. I found it good for me to "socialise" in a situation where there's a common task and therefore less need to engage in the dreaded small talk.

You sound quite young so I don't think you should imagine being a virgin forever at this stage! I thought I would be, but I'm in the process of getting married (aged thirty-nine!).

I had mixed success with dating sites. I did not get many responses or interest in my profile. I did get a couple of dates, but not many. However, two of them turned into relationships that lasted a number of months. I met my fiancee elsewhere, though, so on the whole dating sites were not a great success for me, and I know other people who fared even worse. They are pretty expensive too.

Have you thought of trying to work on finding other ways to go out? Maybe you'll meet someone spontaneously if you do. Volunteering can be a good way of getting out, meeting people and feeling like you're giving something back to the community. I found it good for me to "socialise" in a situation where there's a common task and therefore less need to engage in the dreaded small talk.

I am 28 years old…I know it’s probably still young but when you sometimes see people who you use to go to school with, is having children etc…I don’t know.

What’s annoying is when I do go into relationships I get this panicked feeling…my brain over thinks things and starts thinking “is this the guy I will be spending the rest of my life with???” And I then end up breaking up with them.

As for volunteering, I would love to volunteer but apparently you need references from somewhere you have work (which I’ve never worked) to be able to volunteer now *sighs*

I don’t know how I will spontaneously find someone when o don’t go out, I don’t understand most of what other adults say…so I can’t see myself finding someone tbh *sighs*

Thats why I was thinking dating apps, but to get to the stuff you need to help you find someone you have to spend money *sighs* which is what I don’t have.

I have been trying to push myself to get more qualifications to link to the childcare qualification that I did years ago…but I’m not even sure I will be able to do that.

I am just clueless and hopeless at the moment x