Published on 12, July, 2020
I joined here around 5 months ago.
Since that time it's come to mean different things to me.
I think sharing experiences is invaluable but equally invaluable is the honesty I find here.
It's a place where we can talk about shared experience /our emotions/difficulties in a way that's impossible in the 'real' world - or at least if we speak about it there, it's unlikely to be understood.
It's a place to connect in a world where we often find connecting difficult.
I've received some PMs recently that have made me focus more on how very important this community can be to us as individuals.
Luna RIP called this her 'forum family'.
As a person who doesn't seek friendship (?or thinks she doesn't?), some surprising and valuable friendships have evolved from here for me.
How about you?
P.s + Tax
All i meant was as with everything in life there is always " extra " attached. + Tax is my catchphrase.
Very nicely said.
That’s the glory of this virtual-world, you can just ‘stop here’, this is an uncommonly validating and responsive simulator..
DeSpereaux said:the real world
hmmm..... yes, that place ........ I think I'll stop here.
Ben
That’s beautiful man, thank you. I feel exactly the same way, as my ponderings and venting on here, has tempered me for conversations with opposers in the real world.. This forum has given me strength..
I dip my toe in & out of these forum waters. I'm not use to having a worthy opinion. I say very little which is usually misinterpreted as my being a snob. I'm more of a listener pondering whether or not what I'm hearing is making any sense to me --- it often doesn't. There are those who wish to show off their intellect which is ok with me. As a listener, I "sometimes" learn. My first wife left me because I was boring. I guess we had nothing intellectually to offer each other. My current wife is highly opinionated and argumentative about everything. She offers rebuttle to anything I say which is why I've been brow beaten to the point of saying little. I can unload here on this forum without fear of knee jerk contradiction.
I wasn't conversed with much during my upbringing. This, complimented by my recently diagnosed autism (two years ago) has, in my winter years provided me with answers to my mostly friendless, lonely life. I lost my older brother some years ago. He was more a father to me than my father who returned a broken man on medical discharge from WW2 before my birth in 1945.
You lot are my adopted brothers/sisters where I can freely communicate without fear.
Former Member - Although I can relate to the first four things you stated, would you care to elaborate on what you meant by 'Tax'?
As I think you know, I can be a naturally curious person.
Yes it can be like that and for some leave them bedridden. If it is because of that then hopefully she will recover and be back at some point. She was by far one of the most active members I've ever seen. I'm going to miss seeing the rows of Goosey on my notification window. ️
Yes, I know a person with CFS, it can sometimes lead to having to stop everything because of exhaustion for them. Very debilitating.
I hope to see Goosey here again one day, I haven't been here long but she always seemed to have something positive to say, she will be missed.
Thanks.
I hadn't read that.
Oh dear
I think I read that Goosey had chronic fatigue syndrome, so I'm wondering if that's why they left as it can be debilitating to live with.
Deleted user said:I'm just glad I've got this place with all you amazing people. Thanks for all your support. I appreciate it all and am eternally grateful.
Deleted user said:Here I can be myself. I don't have to mask. I really love being here, it's great being able to get to know everyone and enjoy the forum chat and games. I'm so glad I found it.
Here I can be myself. I don't have to mask. I really love being here, it's great being able to get to know everyone and enjoy the forum chat and games.
I'm so glad I found it.
If you are reading this G, I hope that you are fine and that maybe you will return.
Take care.
I am so sorry for your loss.
What you are feeling is completely normal.
We're all here for you if you need us.
Sadness, despair, Humour and Hope. + Tax
No problem. It was quite a complex father-son relationship that we had.
NAS86592 said:I think you meant "It's likely to be understood or It's unlikely to be misunderstood " but I got your drift and echo your point.
Nope.
The 'there' in my sentence appertains to 'the real world'.
I think you meant "It's likely to be understood or It's unlikely to be misunderstood " but I got your drift and echo your point.
I have a big issue connecting with people. This disappears on this forum where I can relax enough to express myself. Small talk evades me. I can only verbalise on my own knowledge base, and if engaged with a talkative person who seems to know what they are talking about---I much prefer to listen.
Thanks for this. I'm not sure how much is relevant to my situation, I'll need to look into it. I'll have another look at PIP.
For what it's worth, those emotions are all perfectly normal, and there is no right or wrong way to feel after a bereavement. Whilst it isn't always easy, the important thing is to allow those thoughts and feelings to happen as and when they occur.
Please accept my apologies if this sounds in any way patronising. I'm just speaking from my own experience.