I need people to smile, otherwise they dislike me

How come my understanding of facial expressions is so primitive that if people are not smiling I interpret their thinking as dislike of me? 

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  • It's due to autism.

    It is the same with me although I tend to interpret someone not smiling at me as either they are unhappy or annoyed.

    I am constantly asking people I am close to how they are feeling.  Not knowing makes me a bit panicky.

    It's one of the 'triad of impairments' for diagnosis.

    See below:

    'Language and communication: difficulties in recognising and understanding verbal and non-verbal language, such as gestures, facial expressions and tone of voice.'

  • Absolutely but not all allisics people are hyperempaths, by far (a mere 2%), otherwise autistic people wouldn't have so much trouble. So I find it interesting to understand how people who are also largely blind to the emotional state of others deal with this aspect in a different way than autistic people do.  

  • not all allisics people are hyperempaths,

    I believe I am empathetic when someone tells me what they are feeling in an obvious way eg. they tell me or they cry.

    As far as I understand it empathy is understanding a person's thoughts and feelings from their point of view.

    Not recognising facial expressions and non-verbal signs isn't something I see as related to empathy.

    It's the recognising that's the hurdle. 

  • That's a very good question indeed! Hyperempathy is not a typical allistic trait in any case. It can cause overloads when in crowds and requires training to cope with it.

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