Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm 19 and have no friends or girlfriend. I always struggled to understand why i didn't really have friends, i never really had when i started middle/secondary school. Everyone just thought i was shy etc. I tried university but it didn't really work out, i got very ill, i struggled to focus on the course (literally yesterday i was diagnosed with adhd), so i quit, and then i found out that people had made up malicous rumours about me and the girls i was with just thought i was funny and never stayed in touch after i left. How do I find friends or a relationship with a girl etc? I've had one girlfriend it was someone i knew from elementary/primary school who we connected with in lockdown but it lasted barely 2 months if that. I've tried apps like tinder and i can never understand if people are joking or not by the stuff they say on there, usually they just want sex and often theyr'e just plain malicous girls. I think I met an autistic person on a forum who i talked to for a while, a girl, but this might sound bad but I feel like i'd deal with dating an autistic person id find that harder than dating a neurotypical? In the case i had when i was talking to this girl she was just very clingy and would like say "i guess you dont like me" if i didn't reply to a text straight away etc. I'm so lonely and its driven me to suicide attempts before. I've been on my own for so long im just "sick of it" - statements like "oh focus on yourself" dont really mean anything ive had plenty of time for that. I don't really have any typical autistic hobbies tbh - I just like going to the gym, driving, and ocassionally writing.
it would be easier to date a very sociable neurotypical... because shed be so sociable shed interact with you making it easier and making it so you dont have to think of what to say, she does all the work basically... if you dated a autistic girl, youd both be silent and awkward and no side would really break the ice... it is better to date your opposite in that respect.
Yes, this is my thought. I was in an autistic coaching group session today and we had to be paired up (hated that in school because no one would ever want to be paired up with me lol) , and got paired up with this guy. We had to talk about what we wanted to achieve socially and what the challenges were. We managed to talk about that, and then no joke we just sat in the most awkward silence for like two minutes. I had to try hard not to laugh at the situation.
aye i always hated the picking games.... i not only get picked last.... but even when im last, i dont get picked, they always just decided to go on with 1 player less on their team rather than pick me. always sucked.
What dating apps would you recommend then?
Don't overthink it lol, but dont' think someone's just "nice" by acknowledging your existence. That's common human decency.
theres this new starter girl at work who got straight to contract due to knowing one of the managers, i suspect she maybe interested in me.... simply because she acknowledges my existance lol she seems quiet with others but wanting to talk to me, so i guess perhaps theres something there. or im imagining it and shes just trying to get to know her new colleagues lol
I recommend trying actual dating sites as opposed to dating apps like Tinder. I tried Bumble and think it should be renamed Bumhole because of the "hook up" style of it. Folks saying they want a relationship then being inappropriate are rife......
Regarding the girl you mention.... It shows more about the type of person she is than anything you are. How low to post about a "bad" date. Does she not have feelings for others????
I am female and very sad that you have endured such treatment by women. They are not deserving of you. Forget them and don't give up hope of the nice ones who will want you for you and not a meaningless escapade.
Best of luck.
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She lied about that! I never said I drove a BMW XD