Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all,
I'm not diagnosed as Autistic yet but am on the waiting list for a full assessment as I have completed the pre assessment form.
My thoughts about relationship are:
Am I able to have one because of my long term anxiety issues and regular need for emotional support? I cannot deal with the abuse that comes with paid and non paid dating sites where people are more often looking for casual of which I am not. I do enjoy a lot of alone time but I also feel deep aching loneliness for a hug and physical/intellectual/spiritual closeness. I was married for 8 years and together for 10 but my ex husband and I were completely incompatible. His negatives made mine worse and vice versa. He was unable to discuss emotions and I am a very emotional person so I felt single in a relationship which was even more lonely. I feel I want to trust someone again but the more I encounter men, the more they would like a casual hook up which is when I tell them where to go. I have standards and respect for myself but never seem to meet someone of the same ilk.
I'd be interested to hear what everyone else thinks and feels about this topic. It's an emotive one for me and triggers me to tears because I feel there will be no-one for me as everyone is so complex that I'm not sure if I could deal with someones bad points and them mine. I put my heart and soul into my marriage but my hubby was unable to communicate love to me which I couldn't deal with.
Thanks for reading and I look forward to folks replies.
H :-)
you are in for a treat then if you ever watch the series. not giving anything away, but the last few seasons revolve around the police trying to uncover a senior and corrupt copper known only by the letter "H".
PR is incredibly funny and made me laugh. I get called H and haven't watched Line of Duty so not aware of the characters names.... :-)
H - have you been watching Line of Duty?! Is that the backstory for your username?
this interaction has completely tickled me for some reason. i love how PR just casually threw out the phrase "you gays" to H when H is in fact a female, and then how Chris (I think?!) thought PR was referring to him. the circular confusion is just 10/10. i was very confused when I first read this but I think it is all cleared up. sort of. LOL
Reminds me of baking biscuits one Easter with a past flame. She sent me shopping for a couple of last minute ingredients:
Large eggs
White Caster sugar
What did I buy?
Extra large eggs
Golden Caster sugar
I thought this was a good idea, but it wasn't in her recipe...
I think we all need people who can accept our quirks...
Me too! I wish the world was like a movie where people fell in love and it as perfect but that's not reality. Relationships take a lot of work but I am hopeful that there is someone who accepts my sh** and equally I can tolerate their idiosyncrasies. :-)
Actually sucks So much love to give, yet no one to give it too... Meh
I know Cookies, it's very difficult. Meh!
I agree with the timing comments, problem is, if you don't go out how are you meant to meet someone
I do believe that there's someone for everyone but I get incredibly angry with being continually disappointed when I've put time into getting to know someone and again they turn out not to be right for me..... High standards or just not willing to settle? I'm not sure but it's very annoying. Baaaaaaaaa! I'm female just to clear up any confusion. LOL
Have s good one
No worries, lol. Anyway I'm to old and tired to stay awake much longer. Might catch you guys tomorrow. Have a good night. :-)
Oh it when you said you met some very nice karoke I thought you meant as in reference as far as the dating goes
Have I missed something?? If not, dw PR! At least you've made my day proving I'm not the only one to put my foot in it.
Although I may well have missed something.
I'm the same I thought you gays had it easier than us hetors? And don't take offence to that I have no issue when it comes to people's sexuality or gender. But now I realise it works both ways. Sure you'll find someone soon I wouldn't worry about it. I'm not one who believes in fate or anything but I believe there's someone for everyone even if it takes a life time to realise it.
I think the ultimate fear is the rejection factor but everyone who wants a relationship risks that. It just hurts me a lot because I'm highly emotional and have past trauma from rejection. Smallest violin plays in background.
I completely agree. I think online dating is a pile of nonsense and totally not my bag at all. I've met some lovely blokes at the karaoke so it's just a matter of time before someone comes along who is a good person.
It's great that you have gotten out of the situations when you did realise and it's wonderful that you met a super lady who rocked your world. Despite it ending, because of the misunderstanding. It proves that it is possible for you. Keep trying. If you meet a partner who you can explain stuff to and who is willing to tell you how they are feeling since you aren't able to then that's all good. Good and brave communication is the key to any relationship I think.
Online dating is not reflective of real life.
I think the best way to meet people is through common interests. I know life is more limited at the moment but try new things that interest you and perhaps you will meet someone that way. The thing is, meeting the right person just takes time and you cannot force it.
Lol, timing... I completely agree!