Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there I'm Cassidy and I'm need of some advice please.
I have Autism which I do struggle with on a daily basis, don't we all? I mostly struggle with noise, going out, talking and things breaking my usual routine. Somehow I managed to get in a relationship and it's going ok. I don't think I'm an amazing girlfriend but he seems to like me so I guess that's nice.
But recently he's started talking about us having a baby. And I'm not really sure what to do. He tells me I'd be a great mum but I don't think I would. I have meltdowns a lot. And I can't stand babies, nothing personal I just don't like the constant crying and being sick :/ But lately he's getting really pushy and when we have intercourse he takes off protection even though I tell him not to. I don't think I want to get pregnant. There's a lot of factors here working against me. I think I'd be a terrible mum and I've also got a brain tumour which I haven't told anyone about yet. That's something else I need help with. I'm going to die and I don't know how to tell my mum, dad and sisters and brother. It's getting bigger all the time and sometimes I faint. I told my boyfriend the fainting is related to my low vitamin intake.
Not sure what to do about both things.
I took advice you gave to me and told him that I'm a person and if I say no then I don't want it to happen. He called me a retarded freak and said were threw. So I'm very upset at the moment I wasn't expecting him to say and do that. He literally walked out this morning and he's blocked my number and me on Facebook. I've been crying all day so much I don't like being called mean things. I don't want to be lonely but now I'm alone. Maybe I'll find another man next year if I get better. For now I focus on my health.
I have spoken to my nurses team and they say they can help me talk to family about my health so I think one may come to house tomorrow to talk to everyone. I'm a bit worried about that too be honest. I don't know how everyone's going to react. I don't like it.
Also there's talk about them giving me chemotherapy but I read online that it can make you very sick so I'm not sure if I good idea or not.
I have been very ill again today though so may be it would be a good idea. I don't know what to do about it.
Sorry to hear that he was so horrible to you but a huge well done for standing up to him. His reaction is the red flags I saw fluttering now waving like mad in a hurricane. Many people end up trapped for a very long time in abusive relationships because they’ve not stood up to the earlier signs of controlling behaviour. Your medical team are the best to talk to about chemo, yes it does make you feel unwell at the time as it can’t be targeted specifically to the tumour but it can extend your life significantly. Maybe you could also try and find a phone helpline for Macmillan they may be able to send you some information. You have to be very careful what you read online there is a lot of dangerous misinformation about natural cancer treatments