for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

this is a lesson is from a Zen expert.  its not my thoughts but I do agree with the lessons aim  to find  solutions by looking at me ( and not blaming others )

this lesson ( paraphrased by me )  is not just for autistics but for all people.

Its just that so many people seem to identify themselves by immediately hating Neurotypicals and blaming them for all sorts

Zen lessons really hurt / hit home big time  because they are there to find the truth/reality for you.

You are free to ignore everything I say ......  because I dont exist             

lol

I find my reaction to this is very hostile.

You may blame others but I don't.

I am,,,  and have been doing so over 2 years now ---  someday i will understand it. Just been chatting with a Zen Master today  hes given me some guidance in return for some of my services - a zen trade 

You have to read and absorb those teachings first before you can follow them, and whether kids got exposed to Christianity or not was a decision devolved to the public back in the seventies. Seemed like a more utilitarian system of basic human training for the kids than "drag queen story time" or "call of duty" if you ask me, but I am old, we are known for getting things wrong... Or at least that's what all the media has been telling me all my life about old people. IS it any wonder peopel are so confused these days?

welcome to this forum

It's a shame your management team couldn't be similarly introspective and self-accountable. Wouldn't life be so much easier if everyone else took a little bit of ownership?

This was obviously quite a good post as 4 people liked it. Why can't I read it? (Not that I mind particularly, but as my experience of this board is a bit "clunky" I'm fairly curious to know if I am doing anything wrong).

I guess I might as well ask a software tester!

aidie,

I am making my way to university, only it's not for counseling. My interest is helping people come to a better understanding of Autism so those who feel it's something to be ashamed of will stop feeling ashamed of themselves.

That's why I've studied Autism and listened to other Autistic people for over 20 years, I need to keep seeing more and more of the variation between people on the spectrum.

aidie,

We'll stay scientific, we won't jumble science and religion together.

According to science the conscience is above the subconscience. The first 6-7 years of our life we did not have enough capacity to have a conscience so we lived by theta (hypnosis). As children we just watched and observed our families and communities, we were taught so much by parents and that became our subconscience.

95% of the time people are living in their subconscious doing things unconsciously to be a functional member of a particular group. They don't exercise their conscience which is why they don't know what they're doing. Ask them a question about their behaviour and they'll have to exercise their conscience and then they will describe their behaviour as bad or refuse to believe what they were doing.

People replace what's in the subconscious by repetition, people repetitively go on Facebook, after so long it became a habit because of repetition that they now do it without thinking. The things people find difficult are things that do not support what's in the subconscience, that's why they have to exercise the conscience because it opposes the subconscience.  

So the subconscience is like a prison, psychologist William James taught "Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality." 

That's why people have to drop their perceptions that they were programmed to believe if they want to live in actual reality. When we were first born we were full of love, joy and inspiration, our natural state. Unfortunately we became blinded from all that joy by the illusions we observed from our families and communities, like some say we can only be happy if we're rich, an illusion.

Daniel Moore

u defo need to get into a university/counselling course - don't you think ?

 u're awakened  ?   am i correct ? 

yes it is liberating   

and i want autistics to know about it 

but u're not a Buddhist reader as such, thats no biggee i'm just curious

all blends of mindfulness interest me from Ruby Wax to Zen Masters like Bankei

Peter said:

aidie said:

Temple Grandin " you cant use autism as an excuse "

Of the little I've heard of her work I can't say I'm a fan. This is the woman who said, I believe, the more severe forms of autism should be eradicated while the mild left to survive. Sounds to me likes she's confusing the severity of autism with the severity of intellectual disability. It's posable to be very severally autistic and of average or above IQ. I'm not sure she understands this ... if she does then as far as I'm concerned what she advocates is barbaric.

Recalling, remembering or considering anew that allistic people are more subjective or idealistic in their way of thinking, and that autistic people are more objective or realistic in theirs ~ which Temple Grandin has written and talked about quite extensively, as being then the context for the following statement:

“In an ideal world the scientist should find a method to prevent the most severe forms of autism but allow the milder forms to survive. After all, the really social people did not invent the first stone spear. It was probably invented by an Aspie who chipped away at rocks while the other people socialized around the campfire. Without autism traits we might still be living in caves.”

So therefore Grandin advocates that in the ‘real’ world all neurological typologies need to work together to build a better sociological and ecological environment, rather than to cure or eradicate autism as a neurological divergence.

This she described at a 2010 Technology Entertainment and Design (TED) talk as follows, with the issue you brought up being addressed at 16 minutes and 18 seconds:

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I find it easy to avoid blaming others and myself by staying in the moment, anyway, how can we enjoy the moment if we’re not even in the moment?

We all change, so if someone blames me, the fact in the moment I’m no longer the person who was blamed on. Living in the moment is so liberating and calm, you don’t find yourself in anxiety about the future or annoyed about something in the past, everything just comes and goes including blame.

errrrhmmmmm   thanks ............. for this

Diagnosis : I believe Desmond has lost the his mojo

I don't buy into the modern Alphabetti Spaghetti Jargon used in modern Mental Health Support. Most of it is created by 'Life Coaches' who believe in Utopia.

Everyone's entitled to their opinions and beliefs. However, our society was founded on Christian Ideals. Ideals which were moulded over the centuries by Wars, Trials, Persecutions and the lives of those who defended our ways.

In recent times, however, Social Mobility became a double-edged sword. People with fancy houses, two cars at the driveway and motorised toy cars for their kids still have to depend on budget stores to maintain their lifestyle. The Nouveau Riche still acted out of poverty. The kids were expected to succeed, but received no roadmap. No wonder we have so many Bums with Degrees; such as myself.

Plus, Cancer, Fibromyalgia - and now Covid - has turned this Nation into paranoid hypochondriacs. The health bubble was set to burst anyway; it just happened to be Fifteen Months Ago.

I just had to let off some steam with this post.

Do you know how some days you can get up full of beans and set out into your day, only to be dogged by failure or thwarted at every turn? That happens to me sometimes and the frustration can be quite unmanageable.

An explanation that works for me is that there is a "thwarting demon" who sits behind a control panel full of levers and dials and it's his job to pick up the next docket and put his full attention onto the victim thus indicated. Some days it's me..

When I detect his work, and he is on a good day, I know that nothing I start will work out for me until he gets bored, so there is little point in working for myself. I used to go sleep it off for as long as it took to wake up and find that simple things work for me again, but  found I was doing an awful lot of sleeping at one point...

Then I discovered the mantra that saved my sanity. "If you can't help yourself, see if you can help some other f***er instead!". (Or at the very least go and play with the cat!)

It's not altruistic, I'm not virtue signalling here, just passing on a survival tip.. 

thanks  

We are all in this together, my friend. 

thanks for the encouragement. I will. I can already see how misguided so many people are and II'm not even on the first rung of the Zen ladder