Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone feel like they are defective with their diagnosis? It’s a term I use to describe myself a lot and I’m always berated for it by others - mostly professionals - but I am very literal in what I say so my choice of word I believe is correct. I grant a lack of self worth is a factor in how I evaluate myself but I don’t think calling myself defective (or weird is the other label I give myself) is in any way unfair.
Evidentially: I can’t make friends for trying, my outlooks on the world and others are abstract, I can’t cope with some basic things many can - defective right?
I've felt like this aswell, especially in relation to social communication/interaction
i can see feeling defective... some aspies (if i can use that term) really have a hard time; they stand out for their social ineptitude (sorry). i often don't no, just no clue ---i is this person trying to take advantage of me, are they making fun of me, do they want me to get lost? and i'll get that signal ---- too late. some of us don't have useful interests --- mine just come and go. for awhile, chess. then movies... then poetry (uh, i can't really recommend that one, sorry, lol).. comedy... really rough stuff, edgey. nobody likes that...
even aspies with higher than average iq's can be really miserable...........sorry, it's true. sometimes it seemed like it woulda been better to have a lower than normal iq.... , altho i have no idea why. aspies with higher iq's sometimes can be simply miserable that they just can't really be successful at all in life.
There are a few people out there who have a vested interest in getting you to permanently label yourself as defective. I don't know about you, but my self-image drifts all over the place. I can't really label myself for any great length of time as just one thing, So I am absolutely certain that others are incapable of making a label stick to me for any great length of time. So mess up their day for them a bit by not doing their dirty work for them! And have some fun doing it!
I have been known to think of myself amongst the bungled and the botched; but then that's what makes me human. Try comparing yourself to some of the increasingly BS characters who are currently thought of as 'successful' in the shallow world of Facebook and Twitter moments These supposed effectives almost always end up looking somewhat defective in the longer term.. I find that it helps me not to take my way of doing things too seriously. I can laugh at my own way of doing things, but can also see that my own conduct suits my life better than some supposed expert's prescription.
that’s what I’ve been told to do - but I can’t shake it because I know i’m defective... it’s frustrating - I sometimes think if I was an animal someone would have taken me to the vets to be put d out en by now.
I think I know where you're coming from - although getting my diagnosis was a huge relief I still find myself ill-equipped to deal with some work situations which I find frustrating (I'm 46 now). I inadvertently end up comparing myself unfavourably with other people - especially if I have to ask for an adjustment to make things easier.
I'm teaching myself that seeing and understanding the world as I do isn't defective - it's just different.
Others have said that but realistically my ‘differences’ are a deficiency compared to most rather than than being equal. I can’t help but be honest but my specialist hard my frank but honest views of myself.
the fish that developed the first leg ( strong fins ), where they defective ? well yes a variation in genes did it and because it was an advantage it is seen as progress/good/advantageous to that population of fish.
no 2 humans are the same ( except for identical twins and clones ) .
all humans are different from each other and so are you.
so "different" is not only better for u mentally, ie not negative , it is actual more accurate.