Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone I’ve always had some difficulties with understanding some of my emotions I know when it’s super obvious like if I’m laughing my head off about something but I keep thinking about my autism assessment I was asked several times what I was feeling or how I felt about something and I couldn’t really answer properly does anyone else suffer with this sort of thing is it to do with my autism?
These physiological traits don’t help with the actual emotion but might at least help you label them. Although having said that I’ve identified that when I’m angry I clench my jaw or grit my teeth together and so when I realise I’m doing that I try to relax my mouth, perhaps that then helps me relax my body which in turns releases some of that anger...hmmm I’m not sure.
Ah right, you've reached the limit of my knowledge. I don't know any more about romantic relationships. Good luck
Thank you. I’ll have a look
Hi Kate, I don't know if this might help. I'm looking at the physiological traits that emotions can cause:
https://www.verywellmind.com/an-overview-of-the-types-of-emotions-4163976
I don’t understand most of my emotions, I understand only a few
I can definitely relate to this S1mon. I've started looking at the physiological traits that come with basic emotions to see if that helps me identify what it is I am feeling e.g if I'm clenching my teeth it is a sign of me feeling angry. It's very basic. I'm always asked in the morning when I've just got up 'how are you feeling today?' my stock answer is 'it's to early to know'.
Yes, I've read that, thanks. He's clearly a practical person, and i'm an affirmation person. I think we're both really clear about loving/caring for each other, but can't get it together. I shutdown if he's physical towards me and he shutsdown if i start talking about us. Seems we're both patient with each other and holding on though, so there's hope!
Oh I know what you mean!! I say things and people either burst out laughing and say 'oh you are funny/ weird/ strange!' Or they get angry.
I don't know why. I was just saying something normal, yet they think it's funny or provocative
Sorry you got bullied for that! OMG.
Have you heard of 'the 5 love languages'? Look those up, it might help you. It is basically saying everyone has a different way of showing they love someone, and a different way they like someone to show they love them.
e.g. if people do practical things to help me, like helping me clear up the kitchen, doing the shopping etc, I know they love me. Whereas my brother in law likes to get lots of gifts to show someone loves him.
I always reply the same, 'I'm okay thanks.' I don't like responding to another any more than that. It's been beaten out of me, people have bullied me for some really strange things, laughed at things that I can't help or don't even know what I'm doing to get the fun made out of me in the first place. They'll take the mick out of how I say the most normal of words, like, 'hello' even though I say 'hello' normal. They laugh at the tone of the voice, and apparently my facial expression or lack of one. I can no longer reply to strangers without a paralysing amount of anxiety. So my replies are extra short if I manage a reply at all.
One thing I have noticed though. During the pandemic, people ask if I've been keeping well...and they do actually care about my answer! If I say I or anyone in my family has been ill, they are very concerned and ask more questions. A total stranger asked me if I was well the other day, I said 'yes thank you' and he said 'oh good.' I also ask people if they've been keeping well and care about the answer.
It is quite nice actually. There is some caring there.
Yeah I tend to automatically say "I'm fine" because I don't know if they actually want to know if they're just saying it to be polite. Also, I usually think they mean how am I doing right this second, which is probably OK, but maybe they actually mean how have I been doing overall since I last talked to them.
doesn't happen very often but it's the best :D last time it happened I was building a paper mache replica boat and I did it for like 3 days only stopping to eat and sleep
exactly
I usually make a comment about the surroundings or weather. 'Bit cold today isn't it?' or 'a nice view from here isn't it?' They seem to like that.
Yes, def a thing to ask, but if you're just passing I find it hard to fit in. If you stop to chat then i do come back to asking them after i've told them about me. I do give them a little mini summary often of how i am, but it's what i'm thinking about life rather than feeling.
I never initiate that sort of conversation but if asked, I always, always, always come up with some line "not so bad", "been busy today" - but I never ask them about how they are.
I think that's a thing I'm supposed to do... isn't it?
That's it! They are always going on about 'flow' aren't they. It is pretty rare tbh.
"Flow"
It's lovely when it happens.
Maybe autistic people have some other emotions, but those two are ones I've heard of. The first one is 'in a world of your own' when people just kind of switch off. The second one is one I've read about a lot, it's what motivational coaches talk about, the ultimate state of mind we're all supposed to aim for which shows we're in the right job/ living our best life etc. When they talk about 'being authentic'. No idea what the short name for them is though.