Published on 12, July, 2020
How do other people on the spectrum deal with this?
I have always struggled with it because I know when I am so honest people always point this out.
Suddenly I have somebody I really cared about, note past tense cared, suggest I am dishonest, I have nearly lost my career due to my honesty! How do others cope with incidence of being accused of dishonesty?
not very well - get very angry
Yep understandable, espescially when you have given them every reason to trust you and you, trusted them, makes me feel like a complete fool.
what else can you do ? You can only try your best. That doesn't make you a fool. Yes you are hurting which is sad but dont beat yourself up too much.
Apologies for the random, much later message - but searching for catastrophising brought me to this message, and the info is very helpful.
sorry sorry sorry
I was liking you until you mentioned blondie.... Now? Talk about stick the boot in....
i am starting to like u :)
yep sometimes do this, hands up.... but not in this instance....
ok just checkin' you are thinking straight and not "grasshopper" thinking yourself to the wrong conclusions. Be nice to yourself in next few days / read up on self compassion. Autistic people sometimes forget to be nice to themselves, to love themselves and to stop the inner negative critic.
https://network.autism.org.uk/knowledge/insight-opinion/autism-and-catastrophising
be good Bookie
This is true we do I do all the time but I really don't think this was a mistake, this person has said a couple of horrid things to me in the past but I informed them yesterday of a comment which had upset me and they had a stab in relation to this less than an hour after I said I was upset..
That isn't a mistake, that was intent to hurt, push me away whatever but there was intent...
Humans make mistakes all the time. you , me, everyone.
I think its gone beyond that due to the response being so fast, not just a slip but more on the end of the tongue just waiting to come out, I have given as much as I can I think the end is here but thanks. I have done everything I can to convice this person I loved them but clearly it isn't enough. I am done....
They will also probably diss me for making this public but I have gone past caring!
from what u have told me this is a case of miscommunication. It can be easily fixed. PM me tomorrow if u want.
I know what you mean, no need to say anything. Thanks x
i want to answer but i feel i going to go far as usual. yes caring for others is painful especially when there is a breakup .....
Live and learn, the longer I live the more I realise I am better alone, some people are just not worth the effort as if you show you care they just stab you in the back with one sentence.... Caring about others is so painful it just isn't worth it. I'd rather be miserable and alone than miserable with somebody that shows there is no trust....
I'm not, and yes I did do everything I could, I worshipped this person and they let me down. I would have done anything for them and they accused me of using them when in actual fact, maybe it was the other way around?