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Bookworm

How do other people on the spectrum deal with this?

I have always struggled with it because I know when I am so honest people always point this out.

Suddenly I have somebody I really cared about, note past tense cared, suggest I am dishonest, I have nearly lost my career due to my honesty! How do others cope with incidence of being accused of dishonesty?

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  • in reply to aidie

    Apologies for the random, much later message - but searching for catastrophising brought me to this message, and the info is very helpful.

  • in reply to Bookworm

    sorry sorry sorry 

  • in reply to aidie

    I was liking you until you mentioned blondie.... Now? Talk about stick the boot in....

  • in reply to Bookworm

    i am starting to like u :)

  • in reply to aidie

    yep sometimes do this, hands up.... but not in this instance....

  • in reply to Bookworm

    ok just checkin' you are thinking straight and not "grasshopper" thinking yourself to the wrong conclusions. Be nice to yourself in next few days / read up on self compassion. Autistic  people sometimes forget to be nice to themselves, to love themselves and to stop the inner negative critic. 

    https://network.autism.org.uk/knowledge/insight-opinion/autism-and-catastrophising

    be good Bookie

  • in reply to aidie

    This is true we do I do all the time but I really don't think this was a mistake, this person has said a couple of horrid things to me in the past but I informed them yesterday of a comment which had upset me and they had a stab in relation to this less than an hour after I said I was upset..

    That isn't a mistake, that was intent to hurt, push me away whatever but there was intent...

  • in reply to Bookworm

    Humans make mistakes all the time. you , me,  everyone.

  • in reply to aidie

    I think its gone beyond that due to the response being so fast, not just a slip but more on the end of the tongue just waiting  to come out, I have given as much as I can I think the end is here but thanks. I have done everything I can to convice this person I loved them but clearly it isn't enough. I am done....

    They will also probably diss me for making this public but I have gone past caring!

  • in reply to Bookworm

    from what u have told me this is a case of miscommunication. It can be easily fixed. PM me tomorrow if u want.