Am I wrong to feel offended by...

If you want to feel offended, go ahead, there's no right or wrong to it.

I, personally, would instead ask, does it benefit me to be offended?

It is common for autistic people to take offence at things like this because we live in our own little worlds so we think the world evolves around us, therefore anything that happens around us, we think it is all about us and we therefore take it personally and feel offended. NT people are generally not as self obsessed as we are and therefore they are able to not take it personally and not be offended and they're able to see clearly that, even if they don't like the changes, they can see that they have absolutely nothing at all to do with them but in fact, something much bigger than them, like they have pointed out, you are not the only one that the changes effect.

So go ahead, if you want to take it personally, like you're the centre of the universe, by all means kick and scream like a two year old, who also thinks they're the centre of the universe and if it works for you, there's no right or wrong and no judgment. You don't need anybody's permission to be p****d off. And I'm sure you equally do the heads in of the management at your work, it's just how it goes, life is but a mirror. But yeah, get that anger out one way or another and if blaming someone else works for you and makes you happy, go for it. The others who you blame won't care, because they know it's not actually true and they'll just think you're acting like a two year old or something, unless they know you're autistic and then they can be much more open with you, maybe?

Anyway, no. it's not wrong to feel offended, that's your feeling, your choice and you can feel what you want.

Nicely put. Sounds like me. The difficulty is finding a technique to move on and leave the past behind. Mindfulness, CBT, distraction, thought diversion

Nicely put. Sounds like me. The difficulty is finding a technique to move on and leave the past behind. Mindfulness, CBT, distraction, thought diversion

Oh, I've done that, honestly, it has taken a lot of years and lots of super focused hard work but it was all worth it because the past has gone. To be fair, it kind of disappeared when I got the diagnosis but there was still some stuff that lingered, but apart from stuff that comes up when I'm feeling annoyed or whatever, the past is in the past now and now I'm just loving being me - I never realized quite how much fun I was! I'm sure I'm not that much fun to most other people but I'm having a ball

One of the tools I used a lot and I mean, a lot, was Byron Katie's the work. I still use it when necessary but for a good few years, I used this probably thousands or hundreds of thousand of times and it works. You can access the work for free on her web site and get info how to do it there as well. It's really easy and there are tons of videos of her on you tube as well that can give you a better idea and she has books as well.

I love that after all the inner work I've done prior to getting the diagnosis and all the work I've done around autism since I got my diagnosis, I'm still me! :) It's funny because for the longest time I somehow felt that if I got enough understanding around my autism, the difficult bits would some how disappear, but of course they didn't, but every time I realized that, it was like I was devastated. But now, I would be devastated if they did disappear. I am so much fun! lol I've just come back from a walk in the woods which was so much fun,  I love being with the trees so I was swirling round, touching the trees. looking up at them, just being free, like a kid,  in short, I was having a great time and this is why I love myself so much ;)

If you try the Byron Katie stuff, it's really easy but effective, let me know and if you need any help with it or anything else, just message me and I would be privileged to help. I want all autistic people to be set free from the obsessive compulsive sometimes nightmare brain so if I can help, it would be an honor for me, for sure.