Published on 12, July, 2020
Do you ever feel guilty because of your behaviour due to your autism? I'm not really thinking extreme behaviour, more the little things.
I'm asking this because the other day I saw my parents for the first time in a while. I spent the whole time I saw them waffling on about myself and things I wanted to talk about. Afterwards I realised that it hadn't occurred to me to ask them how they were or what they'd been doing. I felt a bit bad when I realised this. I don't want them to think I don't care. I feel quite selfish when this happens but its not because I don't care about them and their lives. It just never occurred to me to ask and I find conversations about other people hard to keep going.
Do other people have situations like this and then feel guilty?
Yep, I do. Like my spending long periods of the time on social media as a distraction from my anxiety.
SNAP - I focus on various other hobbies that help me come down and reduce stress/anxiety. The problem is that, in work, I must/can not perform my coping mechanisms because the company do not want/need that - so why does everyone want my help from my Computer software knowledge to do their job right?
It sounds like you need to get a new job before burn out hits you. If you can't take care of yourself at work it's time to leave, no job is worth burning out for.
Eccentric1 WoW you can function in a burnout that has just sent my mind into a total spin and I’m now wondering what a burnout actually is? I thought I was in a burnout, but I haven’t been able to function for over two years, so maybe mine isn’t a burnout, maybe mine’s a breakdown. It certainly feels like a breakdown but I was told it was a burn out anyway, it’s very impressive that you can function during anything like a burnout, but then again, you have a very impressive life.
Your job sounds amazing, and I doubt very much that I would want to give that up and certainly not because of one individual. It uses your knowledge, skills, experience, intelligence, abilities AND it’s both rewarding and you thoroughly enjoy the job and enjoy working with your colleagues and the whole network, you enjoy the camaraderie, banter and there’s a lot of respect #lifegoals
I think all of us on here are drooling right now over your job It’s like the perfect job, it really couldn’t get better than that so I agree with you 100%, don’t walk away from that.
It sounds like you’ve also got a great life with lots of friends and hobbies and you’ve been able to create the elusive balance, that we are all craving or working for, with time out as well.
You've got this It can’t have been easy to create such a wonderful and balanced life. It’s certainly a testament to what you’re made of so I feel sure you’ll get through this unsettling time and come out of it better than ever and hopefully your bosses will have more of an understanding of how they can make work life better for you so you can do even better for them.
You’ve inspired me and lifted my spirits to the point where I’m actually going to go out now and do my first (for a long time) morning walk, which I’ve been contemplating for the last 3 hours ~ thank you and I wish you all the best with what’s happening. It sounds like you’ve got a job worth fighting for and I trust you will get all the support you need to get this sorted and get you back where you belong.
Former Member - first chance I have had to reply but I'm in another time zone at present. Anyway, at work, doing everything I do best based on my knowledge, skills, experience, intelligence and abilities is great, rewarding and I thoroughly enjoy the colleagues/network and camaraderie/banter/respect.
Since the bullying damager has turned everything upside down without having an ounce of empathy, deaf as a post and not getting what I need to perform then perhaps you are right I should leave/get a new job.
Talk is easy, with the limited options (and possibly being blocked by the bully) currently available, until Equality Act 2010/Company policies followed then I will stay put. Why you may ask? For real financial reasons going forward and I have the vision to see the way ahead.
I am now on my second burnout but the friends, neighbours and real colleagues are all on my side and with the hobbies and time out then I can get myself better. The fact that I can still function with my knowledge and helping those that respect me proves the point that I need to get back to that. I will and whatever happens it will be "winner, winner, chicken dinner".