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Female with autism feels masculine rather than feminine

NAS50499
over 5 years ago

I am a female with autism. Something that I have felt most of my life is that I feel more masculine than feminine in my inner self however outwardly I definitely look feminine such as makeup and I do my hair etc but inwardly I feel and see myself as more of a male. Has anyone experienced this? 

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  • over 5 years ago

    I'm definitely not very feminine. Inside or out. I'm not sure I'd say I feel particularly masculine either though. I don't think about gender too much like that. I'm female and I wouldn't identify any other way. My way of being is more to do with comfort and interests.

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Deleted user

    Binary i think you are right in some respects there. I too dont feel particularly masculine either. I think my identity comes from just being me. I think being fenale and being feminine are different things.

    NAS50499 so you are saying how you dress and your style is more of a practical and comfort thing rather than fashion?

    Does anyone on this thread do anything to attract the opposite (or same?) sex by appearance? My friends used to take the mickey out of me a bit in my younger years by how i dressed on a night out. Quite plain by their standards. But i was firmly of the belief that someone would like me for who i was and the music i liked rather than wearing a low cut top. I thought i could attract boys by dressing a bit like liam gallagher. To show i too liked oasis. (Oh how i loved my parka and duffle coat) I was oblivious to the fact most of the boys just wanted a pretty girl and was puzzled when theyd pick thr pretty blonde one in our group.

    I know this is more naiveity than a female thing but I dont think i noticed the male gaze till i was about 24.

  • over 5 years ago in reply to out_of_step

    No i have never changed my appearance for the opposite sex. If someone is going to like me they can like me for me. I won't dress in a way that is uncomfortable in order for someone to like me. Jeans and a hoody is my clothing of choice. People do take the mick but I don't see the issue. I've never understood the big need to change ourselves in order to be attractive. Having said this I've never been in a relationship so that probably says a lot.

  • over 5 years ago in reply to .
    . said:
    gait

    Funny, gaits were in the introductory video for the OU course I've just started:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XubvihndMz4

    Two mathematicians at a zoo-ey type place watching how animals walk :-).

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Deleted user

    Currently wearing faded trousers, old t shirt and a plain jumper. No make up.

    i don’t wear things to attract the opposite sex. I don’t like that sort of attention, I find it rather predatory.I wear what is comfortable. I look like a perpetual student. Like binary, someone has to like me for me. 

    One of the reasons I like the forum is that people see me through my words not my appearance, gait, choice of lipstick, age, gender etc.

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to Deleted user

    Currently wearing faded trousers, old t shirt and a plain jumper. No make up.

    i don’t wear things to attract the opposite sex. I don’t like that sort of attention, I find it rather predatory.I wear what is comfortable. I look like a perpetual student. Like binary, someone has to like me for me. 

    One of the reasons I like the forum is that people see me through my words not my appearance, gait, choice of lipstick, age, gender etc.

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