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What is it like for you making friends

emmy2654

I was officially diagnosed with level 2 autism about three days ago. when they called to talk about the results they gave my parents ideas about going out and different groups to make friends. However I have trouble making friends and keeping them I only have one friend at the moment and that’s all I feel I can manage. I feel if I had more it would just cause me stress and physically and mentally wear me out as that has happened in the past. I feel like if I had more than one friend it would cause a lot of drama and problems that I couldn’t handle. How do you all manage to make friends and handle more than one friend without getting tired and mentally and physically worn out.  

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  • Short answer is "I don't" and I feel like the worst friend/person in the universe... I find it a lot easier having online friends or people who live far away and I don't have the worry of having to see them if that makes sense? As soon as someone suggests meeting, my head goes and my anxiety takes centre stage. I feel like I'm just better on my own Disappointed

  • in reply to CrazyCatLady222
    CrazyCatLady222 said:
    I feel like the worst friend/person in the universe...
    Snowfairy said:
    I would still love a friend but I’m too anxious and I’m socially useless.

    At least 95% of the population are Neuro-typical and those with ASD are going to struggle making friendship bonds with them.  So many people say the same, or similar things.

    So many people here report communication problems with others out there, and are always asking for Autistic support groups and clubs in their areas.  That isn't a coincidence.

    The lucky few do have a few close friends, or maybe a tight-knit supportive family to pick up that slack - these things make that Autistic world feel less isolating. 

    I don't believe that either of you   are socially useless or the worst friend in the universe - I just think you've not met the right people - it is a law of averages problem.   Keep the faith !  

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed
    overwhelmed & underwhelmed said:
    I don't believe that either of you   are socially useless or the worst friend in the universe - I just think you've not met the right people - it is a law of averages problem.   Keep the faith !  

    I have faith and hope that I'll have a friend one day. Thanks overwhelmed & underwhelmed :)

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