Feeling terrible

I am feeling like an absolutely terrible person at this point. It seems either autism or whatever makes me seem like a curt, selfish, and odd person. Looking back, I feel like so many people likely "tolerated" me. I've never been able to maintain a healthy long term relationship or really any friendship. I fear pushing my children away and siblings away. My parents already do not speak to me. I thought I was just an overally emotional person that people didn't understand, but now it feels so out of my ability to control. I fear my life will be filled of more loneliness and isolation. I am very unsure of myself. I also do not know if I can feel love. I remember writing a poem in my teens about how elusive love is. I currently have a partner and he asks why I do not seem to be sure if he loves me. I don't feel loved because I don't know how to feel. I know this is not how everyone presents with autism, but this is how I feel.

Has anyone else started to realize how terrible they are after an autism diagnosis? Were you able to turn it around?

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  • The inability to recognize your own emotions may be alexythimia, often present with autism. Do you have any therapist? If not, maybe it would be good to try. 
    i myself often struggle to identify what I actually feel. It often takes me weeks months or even years to identify what I felt in certain situations. 
    Do you use the emotion wheel? 
    Maybe your feeling if not being loved has something to do with some trauma. I think it’s worth to look into it if you haven’t tried yet. 

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  • The inability to recognize your own emotions may be alexythimia, often present with autism. Do you have any therapist? If not, maybe it would be good to try. 
    i myself often struggle to identify what I actually feel. It often takes me weeks months or even years to identify what I felt in certain situations. 
    Do you use the emotion wheel? 
    Maybe your feeling if not being loved has something to do with some trauma. I think it’s worth to look into it if you haven’t tried yet. 

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