Published on 12, July, 2020
This is quite a broad subject and there is a lot of information available on this nowadays in the form of books and video.
However, I'm unable to access these due to an inability to read factual matter nowadays (I've tried 2 books on autism and gave up on both) and I simply can't process the spoken word properly.
So part of the reason for this thread is to learn from others.
It's not exclusively for women to post here.
It was sparked by comments on another thread about beauty and people's perception of how a 'beautiful' woman should behave.
I've had a disagreement with another member here before who felt that an autistic woman who was attractive could just dress a certain way and the men would follow.
However, my personal experiences of this is very different.
I don't want to make this introduction too wordy but I'm hoping that others here will want to contribute.
Women present differently to men and I read on this forum quite a lot of comments (based on incorrect assumptions) that appertain to men, not women.
'The different way in which girls and women present under the following headings have been identified below; social understanding, social communication, social imagination which is highly associated with routines, rituals and special interests. Some examples are:
The presence of repetitive behaviour and special interests is part of the diagnostic criteria for an autism spectrum disorder. This is a crucial area in which the male stereotype of autism has clouded the issue in diagnosing girls and women.'
https://autismhampshire.org.uk/about-autism/women-and-girls-on-the-autism-spectrum
I relate a lot with a little exception- my special interests in childhood were more like male stereotypical - trams and magnets. But also Barbie dolls, I didn’t play them, I just created for them - dollhouses, clothes etc. I could also read encyclopaedia for hours just for pleasure. Otherwise I had a very rich inner world, imagination, if I liked some movie, I imagined that I was in that world. With girls I felt lost and often insecure because they bullied me and I felt like I called it that they had some secret language hidden behind words that only they understood but I couldn’t and I was always left behind. I also lacked malice and ability to compete with them which combined with blindness to social cues made me vulnerable. I have only one lifelong friend for 20 years already. She was the only one who didn’t ask me to go for parties, shopping restaurants etc - places I hate and feel bad at. We had great time like hiking, swimming, bicycle rides etc. there are always some activities with her so I don’t have to spend too much energy on analysing and decoding the conversations. I tried to make some more friendships but it failed and then I decided I don’t need anyone else, I’m fine as I am. I have some repetitive behaviours, such as pacing room with a music on earphones, or without music just in silence, I also stem with my hands, twirl fingers, do the rocking. The main reason I went undiagnosed was my mom refusing to get me tested, as the teacher suggested. She said that I’m normal just like her. Till today she says that we are the normal ones and the rest of the world is crazy like a whirlwind. I also feel that way.
Ah the clothing for the dolls I had fogotten about that. I had a johnny weatherman with a wardrobe and some paper dolls I drew clothing for a lot. thanks for the memory trigger!