unfair treatment in school

unfair treatment in school

i have a 6 year old son with ASD and stuggles with everyday life especially at school.

he has recently been diagnosied which didnt come as a shock as we have been fighting for help for hm since aged 1.

school life is terrible.. he has been bullied badly since day one and the school keep saying he will sort it. he has had vaurious injuries at school aily to the head as he is not suppervised at all despitw them assuring me he is.

we have no help or under standing from anyone. we are at a complete loss. my son is not safe at the school he is at now and we dont know what rights he should have etc..]the class teacher is an utter *** she doesnt give a damn about my child nor does she pretnd too.

anyone that can help with info please please do 

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  • What kind of bullying has he experienced? You mention injuries including to his head. That sounds like physical attacks, which the school most certainly should not be tolerating or allowing to pass unremedied.

    You mention sensory difficulties, noise and bright lights. Do these cause distress, changes in behaviour, meltdowns? If his peers (other pupils) recognise that he can be made to react by making loud noises, sudden movements etc they might do this for entertainment (was certainly what happened to me a great deal). The head injuries might be due to his reactions to such winding up, or may be passed off to teachers as self inflicted when they have been injuries inflicted by other children.

    If he is aggressive at school is this a response to the bullying? Or to the way the teachers behave on account of the meltdowns or responses. The teachers may be taking the view that his behaviour is wilful and his fault, not the fault of other kids.

    The behaviour of the teachers seem strange. Teachers will bully a child if they think there is some righteousness in it, that is to say, if they fail to see your child's responses as due to disability (few teachers seem to understand autism) they may view your child's behaviours as wilful and justifying their harsh interventions.

    Children may be being told by their parents or teachers that your child is mentally ill - people seem particularly fearful of mental illness. A child with autism at the school may be seen by ignorant people as suggesting a mental illness (OK it shouldn't but it happens).

    Schools still don't seem to understand the kind of bullying experienced by children on the spectrum, if indeed any kind of bullying. They will try to blame the victim in order to prevent the school being criticised for allowing bullying.

    The incident with a wheelchair is strange. Who provided this - other children or staff in the school? Are they saying being disabled means you need to be in a wheelchair. Is the teacher's reaction one of approval of such gestures.

    The school sounds like an intervention case - badly run, grossly unprofessional - unfit to continue as a school, given what you describe. BUT, and this is something to consider, you need to understand what is going on. To what extent is your child easily affected by bullying? If he goes to another school, word may be passed on to that school by teachers, parents of other children or children themselves - not supposed to, but it happens. So changing schools may not as easily solve the problem.

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  • What kind of bullying has he experienced? You mention injuries including to his head. That sounds like physical attacks, which the school most certainly should not be tolerating or allowing to pass unremedied.

    You mention sensory difficulties, noise and bright lights. Do these cause distress, changes in behaviour, meltdowns? If his peers (other pupils) recognise that he can be made to react by making loud noises, sudden movements etc they might do this for entertainment (was certainly what happened to me a great deal). The head injuries might be due to his reactions to such winding up, or may be passed off to teachers as self inflicted when they have been injuries inflicted by other children.

    If he is aggressive at school is this a response to the bullying? Or to the way the teachers behave on account of the meltdowns or responses. The teachers may be taking the view that his behaviour is wilful and his fault, not the fault of other kids.

    The behaviour of the teachers seem strange. Teachers will bully a child if they think there is some righteousness in it, that is to say, if they fail to see your child's responses as due to disability (few teachers seem to understand autism) they may view your child's behaviours as wilful and justifying their harsh interventions.

    Children may be being told by their parents or teachers that your child is mentally ill - people seem particularly fearful of mental illness. A child with autism at the school may be seen by ignorant people as suggesting a mental illness (OK it shouldn't but it happens).

    Schools still don't seem to understand the kind of bullying experienced by children on the spectrum, if indeed any kind of bullying. They will try to blame the victim in order to prevent the school being criticised for allowing bullying.

    The incident with a wheelchair is strange. Who provided this - other children or staff in the school? Are they saying being disabled means you need to be in a wheelchair. Is the teacher's reaction one of approval of such gestures.

    The school sounds like an intervention case - badly run, grossly unprofessional - unfit to continue as a school, given what you describe. BUT, and this is something to consider, you need to understand what is going on. To what extent is your child easily affected by bullying? If he goes to another school, word may be passed on to that school by teachers, parents of other children or children themselves - not supposed to, but it happens. So changing schools may not as easily solve the problem.

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