15 year old always demanding

NAS95038 said:

She is always demanding and telling me what she is doing and never thinks of anything or anyone else but her self. I think she has PDA,

This sounds quite typical teenager behaviour for someone with a controlling aspect to their personality.

It is quite natural for teenagers to push their boundaries to see how much they can get away with and unless you enforce sensible boundaries for things then she will push and push.

The lack of empathy is quite and autistic trait (you don't actually state she is autistic so I am assuming) but if you explain the boundaries and reasons for them then there is a good chance she will at least consider them. This logic based approach is quite useful for autists who have a strong sense of structure.

Being consistent in your discipline is important too - all parts of the family need to have the same enforcement and support so if you have a partner who caves in then this will undermine you. It would really help to get them working to the same lines as you.

Ditto for any siblings - consistenct is important.

If there are penalties for breaking the rules (eg loss of privelage) then consistently enforce it too.

That would be my approach.

NAS95038 said:

She is always demanding and telling me what she is doing and never thinks of anything or anyone else but her self. I think she has PDA,

This sounds quite typical teenager behaviour for someone with a controlling aspect to their personality.

It is quite natural for teenagers to push their boundaries to see how much they can get away with and unless you enforce sensible boundaries for things then she will push and push.

The lack of empathy is quite and autistic trait (you don't actually state she is autistic so I am assuming) but if you explain the boundaries and reasons for them then there is a good chance she will at least consider them. This logic based approach is quite useful for autists who have a strong sense of structure.

Being consistent in your discipline is important too - all parts of the family need to have the same enforcement and support so if you have a partner who caves in then this will undermine you. It would really help to get them working to the same lines as you.

Ditto for any siblings - consistenct is important.

If there are penalties for breaking the rules (eg loss of privelage) then consistently enforce it too.

That would be my approach.

I am sorry I did not state yes she is Autistic and ADHD medicated. She just does not reason with you at all, and using things to her advantage. we do put boundaries in place but they do not work. When you try and speak with her she just answers back. Not sure how much more i can take