Nursery refusal

NAS91360 said:

Her behaviour always seems to peak in winter

Her distress could be for a few different reasons. The Holiday break isn't as long as the summer break. It could be just as she begins to feel adjusted and settled in, it's over. All children need slower transitions, but Autistic children take even longer to get their bearings and feel they can trust a new adjustment won't change. 

Another possibility is a matter with the gut-brain axis and the need for added supplements for the lack of sunlight and propolis. I take a nootropics daily with Lions Mane which is naturally helpful for Vitamin D and local honey. 

As children grow, it's a bit like slowly waking up into ourselves and our internal desires.  We become more aware of the impact of conflict and consequence, such as a desire for closeness with a parent, which can be in direct contrast to the demands of finances and work. And for Autistic children who are showing extreme sensitivity with the more well-understood 5 senses (there's something like 40+), when the impact is heartbreak, the distress they experience is far more intense.

Our sensory perception to external and internal stimulus has been described as a lack of Filtering and Signalling in the Salience Network. So sadness will be felt as extreme grief. Happiness. excessive joy. And calm contentedness almost this profound relaxed state.

Even with warnings and a schedule, we have a natural ability to be in the moment. A sense of timelessness - a moment is no different than an eon, associated with flow-state. The theory of Monotropism talks about this. As we grow up, we can learn ways to navigate around it. But if we can harness it and have others help with things which are incredibly difficult, at such as organisation in linear time, we can thrive. However, a Golden Rule for autistics is Never Interrupt. Obviously this cannot be completely avoided. But perhaps she needs even more time or reminders to prepare for changes. 

Autistics mature in many ways much slower, but what's actually happening is we should have a whole different education, maturing in skills which often go unnoticed and having a different way of using language. There is much lost in translation along with everything we might not catch up with until later in life. As she's going from toddler to child, she may be delayed in ways most of her peers appear proficient. But find her potential(s) and help grow that. 

Also, as someone who works in sound, I'd recommend getting a decible reader on your phone. In fact, I remember never wanting to do anything with sound as a grown up because it was often a source of pain. When in fact, my ability to hear in detail is what now makes me quite skilled at my job.

NAS91360 said:

Her behaviour always seems to peak in winter

Her distress could be for a few different reasons. The Holiday break isn't as long as the summer break. It could be just as she begins to feel adjusted and settled in, it's over. All children need slower transitions, but Autistic children take even longer to get their bearings and feel they can trust a new adjustment won't change. 

Another possibility is a matter with the gut-brain axis and the need for added supplements for the lack of sunlight and propolis. I take a nootropics daily with Lions Mane which is naturally helpful for Vitamin D and local honey. 

As children grow, it's a bit like slowly waking up into ourselves and our internal desires.  We become more aware of the impact of conflict and consequence, such as a desire for closeness with a parent, which can be in direct contrast to the demands of finances and work. And for Autistic children who are showing extreme sensitivity with the more well-understood 5 senses (there's something like 40+), when the impact is heartbreak, the distress they experience is far more intense.

Our sensory perception to external and internal stimulus has been described as a lack of Filtering and Signalling in the Salience Network. So sadness will be felt as extreme grief. Happiness. excessive joy. And calm contentedness almost this profound relaxed state.

Even with warnings and a schedule, we have a natural ability to be in the moment. A sense of timelessness - a moment is no different than an eon, associated with flow-state. The theory of Monotropism talks about this. As we grow up, we can learn ways to navigate around it. But if we can harness it and have others help with things which are incredibly difficult, at such as organisation in linear time, we can thrive. However, a Golden Rule for autistics is Never Interrupt. Obviously this cannot be completely avoided. But perhaps she needs even more time or reminders to prepare for changes. 

Autistics mature in many ways much slower, but what's actually happening is we should have a whole different education, maturing in skills which often go unnoticed and having a different way of using language. There is much lost in translation along with everything we might not catch up with until later in life. As she's going from toddler to child, she may be delayed in ways most of her peers appear proficient. But find her potential(s) and help grow that. 

Also, as someone who works in sound, I'd recommend getting a decible reader on your phone. In fact, I remember never wanting to do anything with sound as a grown up because it was often a source of pain. When in fact, my ability to hear in detail is what now makes me quite skilled at my job.