Published on 12, July, 2020
One thing I've never been able to understand or help my daughter with is the aftermath of a meltdown. Yes, she has meltdowns and struggles on a weekly basis and I can help her with that but it's the bigger ones I can't.
The ones she has in school I'm talking about. She is still shaken up from Wednesday's meltdown at school. She hasn't been settled at all and is on edge and is constantly pacing and crying. The school never told me that she had a meltdown and was restrained and held for ages, and she came home battered and bruised. I only found out because my daughter told me otherwise Id have no clue. The hardest part is the recovery and aftermath of the meltdown for her.
I want to help her more and understand so if anyone is able to tell me what helps them after to decompress and relax, that will be amazing. Thanks x
ParentingAutism said:restrained and held for ages, and she came home battered and bruised
If I said this about my girlfriend or daughter coming back to mine from their husband/boyfriend/partner we'd start talking about legal repercussions.
There is something seriously wrong in need of addressing here. you've mentioned she likes the school, but if we've never been exposed to something better, and have difficulty with transition, any one of us might stay in a harmful situation. This is how Stockholm syndrome has been discovered.
Suffering change for a more healthy situation isn't harmful, just emotionally difficult but it can pass so long as there is something stable and grounded and someone to help us through.