New here. Autistic traits in 19 month old son

Good morning, I hope you are all well.

Not sure where to start with this to be honest so bare with me. By beautiful son has always struggled with milestones (I hate that word!) but at 19 months he’s showing A LOT of early signs of autism, the health visitor is due out next week, his childminder is on board with me and agrees that he is showing traits. He’s incredibly bright and otherwise a very happy baby boy. Not sure whether to add in where he is in development but the question I would like to ask is:

whilst we are going to though health visitor and getting him any help and support he needs… what can I do now to help him feel more comfortable? 

He can’t feed himself, we’ve been trying to Get him to use spoon but literally does not make the connection. I can feed him a yogurt and pass him over the same spoon and he has never put it anywhere near his mouth. Do I carry on just feeding him as I always have or can any one recommend anything to help him make the connection between spoon and eating? 

His walking is clumsy at best (in a respectful way), any ideas to help him be more steady on his feet?

He doesn’t know who we are. I mean he knows we feed himself be he’s safe but doesn’t know the difference between mummy, daddy and his siblings. Any recommendations? We show photos and say there’s mummy, daddy, etc but he just doesn’t get it. We’ve never had separation anxiety, which in a away is nice but I know he should have some sort of bind with us!! 

Speech: he can say dada but that’s about it, he babbles constantly but with no conviction and not to anyone with no eye contact? Any help? 

sorry it’s a long one, there’s more but Rome wasn’t built in a day and I know I’m going to need professional help just a little something to go because i feel pretty useless at the minute. 

Debbie x