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Please help! I am desperate for help for my son.

Sam Mills
over 2 years ago

My son is 23 years old and was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was 18. He left school 7 years ago and has never has a regular job. He is a recluse, has no friends and suffers from terrible anxiety and frustration. He has mild dyspraxia too. He feels his life is a complete disaster and that he has no future. He didn't really get much in the way of qualifications and now whats to get help with all aspects. I have tried numerous times searching the internet but all the advise and support always seems to come back to children or adults with learning difficulties. Has anyone got any knowledge or stories to share with tips on where to get help for him. He hates people and is very angry with the world. I am very worried about his mental health.

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  • over 2 years ago
    • Hi, I understand how you feel. My daughter is 19 and only just diagnosed. Her mental health isn't particularly  good. Qualifications aren't everything, my daughter did really well academically but she can't cope out in the world. She got into uni, which ironically covid helped with as she didn't have a proper interview rather a 30min informal online chat and managed to get accepted. But she has no social skills and without a diagnosis, got zero help and ended in a deep depression to 5he point I had to insist on bringing her home as she hadn't left her room for over a month, except for the toilet, make food (which was mostly Noodles with boiling water) and once to get a food delivery that her nan had arranged. I only knew something was wrong when the university actually phoned me to say they were trying to contact her and wanted to check she was OK as she hadn't been attending and they couldn't contact her. 
    • I am also in the same boat of not knowing where to turn, I am hoping the specialist sets something in motion as she was only diagnosed yesterday (although for us this has been log awaited for years).
    • My biggest fear for my daughter is she too doesn't really have any friends. She can't form any sort of relationship. She lives with me and spends all her free time at home. I'm terrified that she will be alone for the rest of her life. I would give anything for her to be able to experience loving someone and the feeling of being loved.
  • over 2 years ago in reply to NAS71941

    Thank goodness your daughters uni got in touch with you. In Scotland it does seem extremely difficult to find support for young adults who have been diagnosed and also people who are educated on ASD. My son has been doing a lot of research and many of the things he is finding are only available in England. He too has always did really really well academically but he needs support with social skills and building relationships. These are things we try to teach our kids as they are growing up but only now are we realising how difficult he is and has been finding it.

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  • over 2 years ago in reply to NAS71941

    Thank goodness your daughters uni got in touch with you. In Scotland it does seem extremely difficult to find support for young adults who have been diagnosed and also people who are educated on ASD. My son has been doing a lot of research and many of the things he is finding are only available in England. He too has always did really really well academically but he needs support with social skills and building relationships. These are things we try to teach our kids as they are growing up but only now are we realising how difficult he is and has been finding it.

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