Desperate for advice

Hello!

I’m neither a parent or a carer. I am a concerned partner of a a mid-thirties female who is registered dyslexic but also believes herself to have dyspraxia and autism. I have asked her about getting a diagnosis for her autism but she said that about 3 years ago both her counsellor and her doctor declined to test her. 

I feel I need to support in the day to day pressures that I experience when supporting her. I get frustrated and cross and I don’t think this is right  I want to understand and learn new ways of coping.

Can anyone help me please?

thank you. 

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  • This is kind of like my situation in reverse I have autism, dyslexia and Its hard living with me.

     I am always in the moment and rarely able to reflect and see the long or even short term effects of my actions. 

    I argue alot because I feel like I'm being put under pressure all the time to act and do things I don't understand. 

    I also have serious meltdowns I can't even see coming and it's at these moments I'm the hardest to deal with because I say things I don't mean, mainly because I want to escape from the negative situation I'm experiencing and I get confused and upset, and also  I think years of people bullying and tormenting me has made me very defensive and overwhelming anxious .

    Most of the time I just want to curl myself into a ball and sleep and honestly sometimes I don't want to wake up.

    I am a massive burden on the people I live with but I just don't know what to do to make myself more tolerable to be patient, I've asked for help but really there is non (I just don't know what to do) 

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  • This is kind of like my situation in reverse I have autism, dyslexia and Its hard living with me.

     I am always in the moment and rarely able to reflect and see the long or even short term effects of my actions. 

    I argue alot because I feel like I'm being put under pressure all the time to act and do things I don't understand. 

    I also have serious meltdowns I can't even see coming and it's at these moments I'm the hardest to deal with because I say things I don't mean, mainly because I want to escape from the negative situation I'm experiencing and I get confused and upset, and also  I think years of people bullying and tormenting me has made me very defensive and overwhelming anxious .

    Most of the time I just want to curl myself into a ball and sleep and honestly sometimes I don't want to wake up.

    I am a massive burden on the people I live with but I just don't know what to do to make myself more tolerable to be patient, I've asked for help but really there is non (I just don't know what to do) 

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