Published on 12, July, 2020
My four year old daughter has 35/40 on Tania A marshell M. Sc warning signs of preschool girls with high functioning aspergers. It's been three months since I had an incling and 5 days since I was 90% sure. I don't know what to do, everything I read online is about how to support boys and girls symptoms are completely different. Any advice at all would be appreciated. Any words of wisdom. Any hope. Thankyou
I think the basic thing to understand is that most of us find chaos and unpredictability to be very stressful.
The outside world and school are chaos for us so try to make home life as simple, calm and as predictable as possible. Routines and calm allow us to decompress from the stress of the day having to play the 'life game'. If she's a bit wound up when she comes home from the day's activities, make no demands of her until the brain is back in the room. The simple routine of coming home, tea, playing/tv/reading to her until the stress evaporates will be very important.
Any rules and decisions you make for her must be sensible and logical and explainable so she can absolutely trust your constant predictability so her home life can be stress free and her safe haven.
The more supportive and predictable the home life is, the more she will be able to face the world.
As she grows, other kids get more complicated so relationships may be a mystery for her because the rules are changing every day - and when they hit puberty, other girls can be horrible to each other - she will need a lot of support and to have a strong personality to weather that.
The more gentle and controlled socialiing that she can do will pre-arm her for life. Try things like cubs when she's old enough so she gets to play with a different set of boys and girls for short periods evey week.
Be very attentive to her energy levels - and when you see she is struggling, be prepared to give her to option to get out & go home so she can relax & decompress.
There's a balance to making sure she attacks the world and is robust and able to move forward - and being sensitive to her running out of energy and needing to withdraw to recharge.
Have fun!
Hello, thankyou for your very helpful response. I will try and ensure she has a calm steady homelofe and routine. I'm gonna try my best. Thanks