This question is aimed at parents of children with ASD rather than adults with ASD...
What exactly do you want out of secondary school?
Are there any parents on this forum or is it just adults with ASD?
There are plenty of parents with children with ASD on this forum.
The reason they don't reply to your post is probably because they are too busy struggling with real life to frequent this site very often.
Or have they not thought about what they want out of secondary schools?
Could be either. Out of curiosity, what do you want out of secondary school?