My 14yo with Asperger's hates school and the more interaction I have with them the harder it is not to see why. His in a unit within mainstream and passionately hates being in a unit or having any support. Several incidents some of which my son hasn't helped and others where the school hasn't dealt with bullying or outright discriminated against him. I've had meetings, discussions the lot and nothings improved. He has a year and a few months before finishing.
I've tried to encourage him to stick it out as it's such an important time in respect of his education but now not so sure.
Trouble is feel there is no solution. If he stays, how well can he learn when his so angry and upset? Main issue is him 'being in the unit' having support follow him around and other students calling him derogatory names. If he goes to another school it will be a big upheaval for him requiring using public transport and not having his current convenience of a 5minute walk. He also won't have support which is 100% what he wants but I'm worried he'd struggle.
School has become such a source of stress for both him and I for a long time now that I'm at the point I want nothing further to do with them.
Any thoughts or words of wisdom would be very much appreciated.
Oh! I remember your earlier post about the trip too. Words are honestly failing me.
My littlest man had the most horrendous time at high school; he came away from the experience on the verge of a breakdown, and I came away from it all with an immense deep seated 'numb shock' really. Even now, three years on, I find it hard to understand where on earth (some) schools are coming from...some schools attitudes are just so utterly and completely alien to me, that I don't think I will ever fully understand.
You must not blame yourself in any way; we (parents) have little choice but to 'trust the system' and then do what we can when the system fails, which is exactly what you (have been and) are doing, and no parent can do more than that.