Published on 12, July, 2020
I have a 22 month old little boy who is going to see a pediatrician as the doctors ave concerns hes showing signs o Autism.
About him: he was such a happy hyper extremely social little boy. He would chat and wave at people when out and about. When at home he would be constantly on the go chatting to himself giggling playing with toys and interecting with who evers around. All this started to change around 18/19 months old, he no longer chatted to people when out he started sitting in his pram holding his ears and quiet. People we came into contact with on a regular basis started to ask if he was ok and say he doesn't seem like his normal self. He stopped being hyper at home and started sitting on his own spinning wheels on his cars. His cuddles have turned into him rubbing any skin thats not covered on you, rubbing his face on your feet and holding your ears. He has 2 brothers 11 year old who has asd but hes hyper very lound can be aggressive and a 9 month old. If his brothers go anywhere near him just even sit next to him and play with something else he gets so angry screams and pushes them away. He won't even allow me to sit and read him bedtime stories with him anymore he just wants to sit on his own with the book. Hes changed so much and feels like a different child sometimes. You would think i would be handling this alot better with being here before but this time feels far worse. My 11 year old is so much different he still had communication he still had his personality butt my 22 month old seems to be slowly losing his, we have 2 people that are seriously indeniel of whats going on my dad and my mil. My dad gets mad when people say about his speech saying hes only young hes doing well which he his hes doi g brilliantly but he was speaking so much better and much more often than he does now a few months ago even my mil said she can see speech regression now.I feel so responsible like i am not trying hard enough with him, i feel it maybe because i don't spend as nuch time as i should do with having the 9 month old. I do try though i spend alot of time constantly repeating his name tapping his shoulder trying to get his attention it takes me ages just to get any reaction at all from him even touching him gets little response alot, when i do get his attention am looking to keep it for 10 seconds before i have to start again. I am not sure if hes just ignoring me though. Then theres the people who say if i look at a child with no issues its obvious he has issues, but with my eldest having asd and youngest only being 9 months old i really don't know and i really don't like comparing them. One of my biggest worries is am i over reacting for no reason as my eldest as asd.If i was to go of my deep down feelings i feel somethings not quite right, its hard to explain with my 11 year old and 22 month old i have always had this odd feeling but i dont have this feeling with my 9 month old. Is it just me? Am i being paranoid? Am i just jot trying hard enough for him?Sorry about the lengthy post.
I have looked into what they say middle chils syndrome but if he was purposely mimicing the 9 month old would he get so frustrated, his speech inperticular hes used to be able to say about 30 worrs now he can say 5 you can tell he's trying and getting annoyed he can't. For instances he used get his cup come to you and says juice please now he comes to you no cup tries to say something cries when you don't understand picks his cup up and throws it in the kitchen, none of that is behaviour my 9 month old does.
I agree about my husbands family. They want to take my 22 month old on his own on fridays on his own i refuse to let that happen. My husband said we are his family now not them. My father in law only met my 9 month old because we got married 3 weeks ago. My mother in law actually turned up a few weeks ago with a bag full of dairy free food now i understand the 22 month old has intolrance and shes trying to help find alternatives but in my opnion she should have a least bought the other 2 a little chocolate bar or something. She actually refuses to buy the other to treats as she finds it un fair the 22 month old can't have it. She got mad that on our wedding meal the 9 month old ice cream and the 22 month old had fruit platter with dairy free chocolate dipping sauce they both got treats in my eyes but in hers my 9 month shouldn't have been allowed ice cream even though no other desert was sutible for him. I give them all treats at the same time its just not always exactly the same thing they have.