Published on 12, July, 2020
I've been feeling kinda lonely romantically lately a few months after coming out of an abusive relationship and don't really want to/am no good at "dating" the way NT people do it. The solution, naturally, seems to be dating sites. The trouble is, there are thousands of these sites around and I'm having trouble filtering the good ones from the bad ones, and especially finding sites that may be a bit more accommodating to a fairly shy bloke with Aspergers. Has anyone on here got any success stories from dating sites? If so, which site(s) did you use and how long did it take to find lurrrrrve?
How to find a friend?
I think that it is almost impossible to find a friend if one is autistic.
I have looked at the dating websites but they all want to set up my profile. I do not want to publish my photo.
I have also noticed that a lot of people are looking for sex with strangers, which is ridiculous. How can one have sex with someone you just met?
Is it true, that paid websites are useless because no one wants to pay, so there are no people?
Thank you for saying that nobody or not many people that are on those paid dating sites as I just wish that most or a lot of them were free of charge as like myself would not want to pay for things like that as I am shocked that unfortunately people had to pay even for things like that and also how expensive some of them can be too.
On the "Plentyoffish" web site it says that:
"Users with images uploaded to their accounts are significantly more likely to get messages or get responses from other users." I read somewhereelse that users with photographs were ten times more likely to get a response than those who didn't put up a photograph. If people looking at dating profiles don't see a photograph, they might think that the person without a photograph has something to hide for example they might already be married or be exceptionally ugly.
When I started with online dating, I was reluctant to put up my picture, but after a while in order to improve my chances, I took photographs which I put online, I had a picture from a distance rather than a close up photograph.
There is a good article about online dating on Wikipedia:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Online_dating_service
In it there is mention of paid for dating websites:
"For instance, some profiles may not represent real humans but rather "bait profiles" placed online by site owners to attract new paying members, or "spam profiles" created by advertisers to market services and products."
Some years ago, I took out a number of one month subscriptions to paid for dating websites. As the month was drawing to a close, I suddenly had an approach from a woman, to reply I had to renew my subscription. I renewed my subscription, only to be immediately rebuffed, so I suspect that the "woman" was a bait profile.
I eventually found love on a free dating website, so online dating worked for me. But it took a few years.