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There are times when I'm such a numpty

TheCatWoman

It was years before I worked out that actors wear wigs!, I'd see them in something and then see them on something like the One show and wonder how they'd manages to grow their hair so much and stuff like that.

Theres been so many things like that over the years, mispronunciations, not knowing what some cultural things are, I sort of have to wonder at my own niavity. WHat made it all worse was that some "friends" would either laugh at me or wouldn't tell me I'd made a boo boo so they could laugh behind my back.

Do you ever miss the obvious?

  • I'm terrible with accents. I can recognise most accents under most circumstances, but not when I expect them to be something else. There was one guy I'd been listening to at my trade union conference for a couple of years, but didn't realise he spoke with a Scottish accent because he was a delegate for Manchester. Or listening to a famous Welsh actress in a role on TV and thinking she was appalling at an Irish accent because I'd got the idea her character was Irish.

    And yep - I was teased at school for mispronunciations.

  • I do things like this all the time - and you are far from being alone on here, I expect. What horrid friends - fiends really; I would avoid them! True friends wouldn't belittle you like this.

    No one knows everything. I'm sure you know a great deal others don't, for example, your keep knowledge of medieval history. And you've learned about AI very quickly. Anyway, better be naive than nasty.

  • I didn't realise for years that Scotty from Star Trek wasn't Scottish, not because I thought he sounded Scottish, just because it just never occurred to me to question it.

  • It's not your fault TheCatWoman, the beauty industry has a lot to answer for! I recently went onto a beauty section of a website to get some advice for a under eye cream. Had a look at some of the tthreads, what you can do/get for your body these days is amazing! Open mouth Eye lash inserts! Eye liner and lip tattoos, eyebrow blading, obviously botox and fillers, new style hair extentions (Nano loops?) for thickness, etc. I've also recenntly watched Surgery Secrets of the Rich and Oliva Attwoods Price of Perfection on modern plastic surgery. You can now even have fat transfers for the back of your hands to make them look younger! I think the worst one though was in an episode of Olive Attwood, it's a bit grim but people were having their legs intentionally broken, rods inserted and everday, 4 times a day they had a an alen key and would wind it round to seperate the bones a bit more to give them extra hight. They did this for three months. 

    Now, writting all that sounds like I have missed the obvious Joy in that you were using the beauty example as an example, lol but I just wanted to let you know there's a lot more visual beauty trickery out there than we realise! Also, my own example, it was only recenntly I realised George from Rainbow is a boy. 

    Also, those 'friends' don't deserve your time or attention. Frankly you are well shot of them.  

  • in reply to profdanger

    I was humoured, a lot, as a boy. But I learned to develop a thicker skin.

  • 1. I just KNEW when I saw the word “numpty” in the title that this is a TheCatWoman thread LOL

    2. When I was in high school I was IMMENSELY naïve. I really don’t want to give details, but let’s just say a handful of people recognized that it was very easy to dupe me, even on things that should be obvious. Reason being, I deep down believed that people will not lie unless they have a good reason to. Boy was I wrong.

    3. Since then, I have learned to be suspicious of everything. Anything I read online I double check it. When people tell me something in person and there is even an inkling that they might have an ulterior motive, I am cautious. Lol I’m so careful that I even look up quick notes on recent movies and shows so that I don’t get taken by surprise when someone references pop culture. I haven’t felt quite so naïve or duped in years because I am so cautious.

    4. That doesn’t mean I don’t make dumb mistakes. That still happens a lot. Thankfully, I surround myself with people who just laugh off my weirdness and we move on. Thus, I can’t even remember recent examples of that.

    5. I mentioned on another recent thread that I have a trauma response to lying. One reason is my mother and another reason is point 2 above. When I KNOW someone lied to me (unless they had a good reason to), that’s an automatic unforgivable sin for me lol. It’s not worth suffering the rising blood pressure, shakes, and feelings of dread again just to save face.

  • Yes, similar things happen to me regularly. And I feel embarrassed usually, once I realise.

    At times it is like taking the world too literally, other times distractions, other times missing people's intent or just connecting things differently, and so on.