Published on 12, July, 2020
This obsession with 'Safe Spaces' has failed our society. Out of it emerged a Militant Nihlism; Hell-Bent on stamping toes.
We need to restore the Position of the Father, in a Family, and the concept of Respect.
When I was younger, I resented being smacked; by my Mum. And became passionate about banning Corporal Punishment. Now, on reflection, I see that it was the best thing to ever happen me. I was supposed to externalise, rather than internalise.
i think it needs both.. this is why we have 2 parents.... one that raises us with love, one that raises us with discipline.you need bothmy father punished me physically alot and shouted at me alot. it got me to hate him... but in the end it got me to avoid doing bad stuff, it got me more conscious of the world, it got me to think of others as i often would get smacked if i so much as got in the way of anyone elses path. this made me conscious of other people around me and to not get in peoples way, and to have respect and awareness of other people to not be a nuisance or ever be in anyones way.... my mother raised me with love and id do anything for her. this combo, you have both, and both work.... if you have just 1 alone you get trouble... too much love and no discipline you turn into a bad person, too much discipline and no love you be a bad person.... but you get both, you become the better person. this is why we need a father and a mother.the mother raises us with love, the father raises us with discipline.
Whoever is the carer needs to provide nurture and boundaries for the child ... irrespective of their gender or whether they are co-parents, single parents or parent-substitutes. Children need secure attachment figures who will serve as role models. "Discipline" is an over-used word ... perhaps we should be thinking about structure and consequences as a way of helping young people to make pro-social choices.