Published on 12, July, 2020
I’ve just found out today I’m autistic,
I’m a 40 year old male and I don’t know who to tell other than my wife and children. do I keep this to myself or let the world know
I believe there is no rush and no obligation to tell people (certainly not until you have given yourself time to have a really good think about all the new information you have been taking onboard since receiving your diagnosis).
That said, outside of your immediate family, I wonder if you might consider updating your GP? (if they are not already in the know).
I like how this video tackles the "who to tell" challenge of disclosure and unmasking. (I have found re-watching this video helpful to me - when assessing who / what / how / when I might be considering telling someone next):
https://youtu.be/nwFOxUmIisQ?feature=shared
... including as Paul in the video says at the end (19:08 minutes into the video): remember to be kind to the people you are coming out to (for the reasons he goes in to explain) - people you tell sometimes need time themselves to get up to speed to then be able to join you on your journey.