Published on 12, July, 2020
Helloo,
Sorry to bother people with this, but I was just wondering if anybody is able to help at all here please.
If I'm using sensory aids, whether ear defenders, sunglasses outdoor/indoor, or any other support that helps to keep me calm, is it wrong for someone to ask that I don't do it / comment on it because it makes them uncomfortable? Or should I be compromising so that they feel they're heard /that there needs are met? So much attention was drawn to me wearing sunglasses indoors to help myself and although I wouldn't usually, I've messaged the person to say how it made me feel, whilst still reminding them I love them and they have seen the message from days ago and not replied. I don't know if it's years of the false 'I'm too much' message that has made this hurt so much, or because I thought I was in a safe space, but I cannot seem to rationalise anything in my mind/ really understand.
Thank you in advance and sending light to you all
Just find a quiet corner, and explain to them gently (preferably whilst picking your teeth with a flick knife, or perfoming firearm safety checks) that you suffer from Intermittent & Selective Autistic Homicidal Rage, and whilst you are very sorry about it there's a reason that person always catches you wearing aids to help mitigate it's effects.
If you can act at all, at this point you want to start trembling and moaning gently "oh no, not again" whilst staring at your opponent intently..
To be honest, I'm not good at managing those sorts of situation myself, and am currently still searching for the perfect answer to the smartypants who regualrly ask me "Why do you have a little number on the side of your glasses?" but I have run the full gamut of explaining my reasoning politely over several years and am currently trialling variants of "Because I like it. Have you any more stupid questions?"...
The smug questioning normies subject us to, is a refined psychic assault and should be replied to as such.
Unexpected rudeness is a powerful psychological tool when used right.
We all have good acting skills. The moment any normie hears the word "Autism" or simply notices it, they automatically think they are on the high ground psychologcially speaking, and mostly it's just easier to let them do it.
But if you HAVE grown the skills to be intimidating or better yet, look after yourself in a psychological conflict (if you really HAVE TO you can do it, we all can with traing and or practice) and used them succesfully just a couple of times in the past, it makes it much easier to brush off the small day to day annoyances of dealing with the irritating "Normalists" (we have a few on this forum too!) that you will inevitably encounter.
Peace is always better than war, but some people simply cannot leave others alone, and for them you need a less gentle and forgiving approach. It saves a lot of time and heartache in the long run.
Thank you so much for your reply, love the opening. You have a wonderful way with words.
Ah ok, that helps to put things into a different perspective and understand things a little better. Thank you for that, also thanks for the dark humour, it's certainly a valuable tool!