Published on 12, July, 2020
Well my post diagnosis was messy and the mute shut down and rejection of alll medical assistance was the out working of a failier of response that is typical of the mental health provisions in surrey. the few people I saw were ok and the psychiatrist did get me a step along but i was wel annoyed that his paper work was nessacary to qualify what i had been bleeting on about for years anf even now the system has let me drift off because i was traumatise dby the 40 questions it takes to get an assesment to go on the 18 month waiting list for therapy. PLEASE
So how was i exumed from my silence and driven from my pyjamas and the doldrums of indifferent failier and the contemplations of my own execution that I willing ly considered and rejected to continue what I saw as fsithful but self detructive choice to live.
Well She is called Foxy anad she is the dumped dog who escaped the battersey death nell, to become my little world of sucess on a different world view of things.
You can see her baby picture here
http://www.alldogsmatter.co.uk/?dogs-rehomed,7
I am up at 4 to keep the floor dry and when she eats I remember to, her walks and my medication go together and all in all we are a good team, I have to be the boss and eat first and have learned to shout or bark when I am not happy with realy bad behaviour, I am the one who is at the training classes she is well smart and had to go up a class.
The staff at the school responded in fine style to my iam autistic card and a few of them have first hand experience and experts in the friend and family line who would consult to help my challenges, which was overwhelming on the first day.
http://adolescentdogs.com/ have been exelent in their understanding and have been keen to help me keep a sfe and happy doe mostly I needed reassuring that i wass not breaking her in some way.
So I was lead out of the rock under which I crawled realy by a small bright inteligent Little Red Dog, called Foxy.
WB
When ther are no languages to bridge the devide it is the best of us as animals that we have in common, it is sad that we despise this beauty in ourselves as base and of no value or function, for I think it is the very antidote to all that ails us as a result of the toxicity of the life we call modern.
Do not worry about that we attend a kind, dog understanding place with like minded people (one 'trainer' is ASD herself as is her son). I deliberately didn't say 'training' as this depends on the type of dog you have and how they cope with all the stimulus.
The emphasis is on making the dogs environment calm and relaxed..so quiet is good, especially for rescue dogs who need this more than most. Both our 'pups' are very noise sensitive so fit in well when we like it quiet ourselves.
Go with your feelings Wolfbear, everyone needs less shouting and flapping about...it's overrated in my opinion for humans and our furry friends.
I looked on your link for the pic of Foxy but couldn't see her... can you redirect me as me and Bri would love to know which dog she is? She sounds fantastic, I know Fudge and Brian couldn't cope without each other and he has been Fudgies biggest fan even when he practically destroyed our home with his seperation anxiety. I am not joking..sofas, beds, window frames, doors, carpets, kitchen, contents of kitchen...decimated eveytime we left him alone..poor little guy. I used to sit and cry..not at the mess but because I knew this poor dog was so scared and alone.
We've had him 8 years now and it's all stopped, you wouldn't believe what we did to help him cope...neighbours saw us climbing out of windows, going through the back door to re enter the house 1 min later through the front. The biggest thing was keeping things quiet and calm so he got less and less stressed. Sit, stay and roll over is all well and good but a happy dog that sticks with you because they want to is brilliant and equally rewarding.
Sorry am rambling promise I won't talk about my other dog just now
I also wanted to say you have helped me a great deal this week when I was trying to understand my 4yr old son's anger and frustration..you gave me huge insight into how he was feeling and I changed things today when he melted down..it was so much better and neither of us felt like crying..he even came and hugged me and said 'sorry mum'..thanks for that..daft really it wasn't too far away from my doggie tactics..walk out, calm down, reassess and learn to avoid the triggers...simple when you finally have an angle. Squashing and forcing get us no where eh? Firm, kind, calm, minimal...thats the way perhaps?? I dunno but I will try..worked today.
I hope your week improves and I know Foxy and you will help each other. Please keep us informed about how you are both progressing etc.
Kind regards
J